Wednesday, January 28, 2009
So they fired me and now want me to babysit for them!
I was a nanny for a sweet little 9 month old baby girl for just over a month. We agreed this would be our trial period. I gave my 30 day notice (as agreed) at the end of the trial and had hoped to leave on good terms and planned to work each day as scheduled and give my best to the baby each day I was with her.
I gave notice because I was starting to feel stressed and unhappy. The dad worked at home and since it was a small space we got in each others way often, the baby would get upset when she saw Daddy and he couldn't play with her for more then a few minutes and also he would micro manage. By this I mean once I put her pants on and he insisted they were pj bottoms so I had to change them, ok no big deal there. Another time he insisted I change her hoodie when it didn't match well enough with the rest of her outfit. One time he gave her cookies right when I was making her lunch and then she refused to eat what I gave her and one time he let her drink some pop!
After awhile I learned we were not on the same page, the dad and I, but the mom and I seemed to be for the most part. One night I babysat and told him that the baby had cried and I left her in her room alone to see if she'd calm down after 5 minutes (she did) and he was really upset. I asked the mom about it right after and she was fine with it and said not to worry and if I did it again not to mention it to him. I wasn't comfortable with that though.
The day after I gave notice in person to both parents, the dad called me and fired me on the spot! He had gone over the agreement and asked me to get mine out so I did. He said that according to clause 4 I had not a responsible nanny because I had missed 3 days of work and did not have a good reason for it. That was the first time I'd heard him say the reasons I gave were not acceptable and I think he should have told me that, but that was fine, I felt relieved not to go back to work for them again.
That was in August. Since then the mom called me once the week after I was fired and asked me to babysit, I thought maybe she was asking without the dad knowing since he was out of town (I knew because we had talked earlier about his out of town buisniess trip) and I said no I couldn't babysit for her. Then the mom called me again about a week ago and asked me to babysit at the last minute and I was busy so I said no. Then the dad called me 2 days ago and asked me to babysit tomorrow night. I said I'd have to check my schedule.
The truth is I really don't want to babysit for them again. If they think I'm irresponsible then I don't think I should be their nanny or babysitter. The dad called earlier and I let it go to voice mail, I'll check the message later. What should I say to them? Should I just not answer when they call or should I be honest with them and tell them I just don't feel comfortable babysitting for them because of the way I was fired and that he said I wasn't responsible?