Thursday December 25, 2008.
I've been witness to one of the saddest situations I think I've seen in a long time. I'm a SAHM and a very good friend of mine is a Nanny to a wealthy family of one child, a 10-year-old girl. This is a very smart and beautiful girl and she adores her Nanny. My daughter and this little girl hang out quite a bit and also go to some after school activities together.
On playdates I've had the opportunity to talk to this little girl and knowing how many hours my friend takes care of her, was curious how she felt about it. Her parents are hardly ever home, and this little girl rarely sees them. Her Nanny is the center of her life. She gets her off to school and picks her up, takes her to activities, comes home and helps her with her homework, cooks all her meals and even eats them with her. Just the two of them. The little girl misses her parents terribly, and my friend is basically on call 24/7, raising this kid. I know she loves her and wouldn't trade it for the world, but my friend feels like she has no life - at all.
I think the parents have just found someone convenient to dump their daughter on. My friend asked me what I thought would be the best way to approach these parents and tell them that their daughter is missing them and is really struggling with their absence. I don't think I've ever seen a child so neglected, but not neglected in the way most would think because there is someone to care for her, but I wonder how much these parents really care. I just couldn't imagine being separated from my kids all the time like that. Wouldn't you do what you could, even as a busy parent, to make time for your child?
Please tell me what I can do to help my friend. There's no way she can leave this job. That is not an option. She's the only stability this little girl has had in her life for the past two years. What would be the best way for her to approach these parents to let them know how she and this little girl feel?