Received Tuesday, November 25, 2008. - Perspective & Opinion
Dear Nannies and Parents - I really need some help. I work for a wonderful family, going on 3 years now. We have a wonderful relationship. I am an extension to them as they are to me. In fact, I can't imagine being anywhere else right now and I wish every nanny was as lucky as I am. I just have one issue. The mom and dad are divorcing. Long story short - is that they decided to move dad's mom in as she is getting older, but its not working out. Her being there has managed to tear them apart. Mom vents and cries to me all the time and I feel really bad that this has happened. Maybe I feel a little too bad - meaning that because I am so close to them, this is affecting me in a big way. I am very hurt that this is happening to them. I feel bad for them and feel bad for the kids.
Sometimes when I sit and think, I get myself scared wondering if I'm getting too involved in their issues. I am a live out nanny, but even live out nannies need boundaries. I think I've climbed over to their side of the wall and don't know how to get myself back on my own side. I know the info I gave is vauge, but personal stories and any advice would be greatly appreciated. Again, I love this family like they are my own, and they are the same way with the way they treat me. That's why this is so hard.