Received Monday, October 27, 2008. - Perspective & Opinion
My employers are expecting their second baby this year.
Recently the mom started telling me about their financial situation which is unusual for me. We talk fairly comfortably and I even consider her my friend, although she is my employer...a consideration that other nannies warned me to reconsider.
Anyway, we haven't discussed my change of wages for when the baby arrives and tonight was the second time she tried to discuss their financial situation with me, by saying that they have their documents laying around the house and I am a part of what goes on in the house etc, so I shouldn't jump to conclusions that they are well off, so to speak, when I see what the documents state and the figures. Firstly I was taken aback and said, that although I do see their documents laying around, I don't really care that they are there and I don't think anything of the figures on them.
So, I am jumping to the conclusion that they think I am a snoop...when I really do think and take to heart that they do the best that can be afforded regarding my salary...seeing that they don't really pay me a "fair wage" reflecting on what other nannies in my area work for.
But I never really cared about that fact because my life is simple and I could still get the important things done, like pay my bills for instance.
And secondly, I have at the back of my mind that they intend to be "unfair" (maybe thats not the right word) when the baby comes and we discuss salaries again, and they are just putting things in place so that I would be, so to speak, aware of their financial situation from the beginning.
I am so distraught about the point that she thinks I literally read their papers when I do actually see them around and I might have glanced at a couple a couple of times but the most I do is stack mail together to tidy up. I never look through their things or go through anything personal.
And I am unsure about what to expect when the baby comes.
For the record I work in NYC, 5days, 45hrs, my starting salary was less than $500 and I have been employed for 2.5 years.
I was raised to the said $500 (which is, and perhaps more, a starting salary in NYC) this year...thankfully :)
How would others handle a situation like this??