Friday

Squalor....

Update:
Received Friday, August 15, 2008. - Perspective & Opinion
I used Nanny-Agency.com. I confronted the mother further this morning and told her I could not stay due to the condition of her house, and she said the house was not messy. She then went on to justify that if it is raining the dogs have to pee and poo on the floor. I kindly tried to explain that I was not accustomed to this and that it was not something I was comfortable with. She then tried to tell me she had told me this happened in the e-mails and phone conversations she had had with me, and this is not true. She threatened to get a lawyer to sue me for the expenses in getting me down there. I didn't have much to say to this as I can't imagine this going very far, there was no signed contract, no written e-mail agreements, and she was providing me with inhumane living conditions. So when I told her my cousin from a few hours away was coming to get me she got very mad at me and said that I was allowing a stranger to come to her house, and she called me a liar (she thought my Dad was coming at first and he was supposed to be on a road trip with my sister) I explained I had not lied and my cousin was coming and she said she was calling the cops to watch him pick me up as she didn't like strangers in her house.

So I called my poor cousin (who has been wonderful and amazing about all of this, especially considering I haven't seen him in years) and he said he would stay in the vehicle and text me when he got there. Finally I got to leave, and the cops asked me a few questions and my cousin too and then we left. I am now safely at my cousins house and awaiting to book a flight home. I've learned a lot, and hopefully if I get the chance to nanny again (which I hope I do, I love working with children and am really good with kids, and have a lot of experience) I will know all the right questions to ask and make it very clear there will be no verbal, written, agreement until I have met them. The mother wanted me to reimburse her for the plane ticket they purchased for me to Mexico, which they purchased before I even agreed to the job, and I gained nothing from this job. I never recieved payment, I got a passport that I wouldn't have needed had I not taken the job, she sent me travel money that I wouldn't have needed had I not been travelling to her, and she bought new furiture for the bedroom that she can still use anyways. But I am safe, and feel better. I feel a little naive and foolish, but I've learned a lesson, and I hope she has too!
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Received Thursday, August 14, 2008- Perspective & Opinion
So I had registered with a nanny website and this man called me asking if I was still looking for a nanny position. He told me he had two children, and they ran a company and wanted a nanny/apprentice, it sounded really cool, and he seemed nice until he told me he wanted me to be his sexual bitch. So I politely informed him I couldn't accept but that I thanked him for his honesty. A week or so later a lovely sounding southern woman called me and said she had fallen in love with my profile. We talked a lot and she said she wanted me to come work for her. They seemed really nice, and offered to pay for all of my travel accommodations and also offered to take me on their family vacation to Italy. I said they sounded great but never fully agreed.

The next day I have a travel itinerary for a flight to Italy in my name in my e-mail. I figured they must have misunderstood and assumed had accepted. After talking to them again though I decided to accept. So she booked my flight to their home. She was very friendly and we talked a lot, and e-mailed almost daily. They paid for me to get my passport and also sent me some spending/travel money to hold me off until I got there. A few days before I was suppose to leave I was checking my flights online and found the trip to Italy had been changed to Mexico. Now I was confused. Mind you I didn't take the job to go on the trip, but surely they would tell me plans were changing.

Not true, she then told me she didn't tell me because she thought it was more important for me to spend time with my family and pack before came and not worry about the trip, and that she planned on telling me when I got there. So I was upset, but figured hey they are still good people. I finally arrived after lots of layovers and delays tithe messiest house I've ever seen. Like a bag of garbage on the floor with no garbage can, toys and laundry and other things everywhere, and soon learned that the dogs peed and pooed on the floor, and the pee was not cleaned from the carpets and the poo was left on the floor fora long time. I proceeded to politely say I was tired and go to my room. I called home and cried and cried, I was having a panic attack.

I needed a way out. After fretting all night I realized I had to tell her I couldn't stay. So I went into her room crying and said I just couldn't stay. She seemed OK with it, and said she understood if Wasn't comfortable that I couldn't stay. She said they had planned ongoing shopping and wanted me to come and we could talk more later, Didn't mind as I was feeling better. My dad had agreed to fly me home,my cousin who lived a few hours away was on standby to come get me,and it's not like they weren't nice people. After shopping and lunch and a long conversation with her husband where he was yelling at her,she talked to me in my room for a while while the kids watched t.v.She didn't mention me leaving and we just talked like old friends.

Finally after hours she said "so do you think you want to try and stay with us?" I knew it was coming. I felt bad. She was nice, the kids were great and sweet, but I knew I was not comfortable living in ahem like this, and it was not part of the deal for me to clean up.However they had already purchased a non-refundable ticket to Mexico for me and paid for my passport and all. I feel bad and all, however is it fair for them to not have left me know ahead of time what conditions I would be living in. She had gone on and on about how they loved to travel and always stayed in nice hotels and I guess I just figured they'd have a nice well presented home. No such luck. The dog has already peed in my room (I have to keep the door shut) the dog pooed on the floor and it wasn't cleaned forever (and I'm pretty sure it was just wiped up, no cleaner used). I'm a pretty messy person, and I'm grossed out. The carpets are all stained, and there is garbage and clutter everywhere. I guess I'm wondering if it makes me bad to be leaving? Should I have just dealt with all of this? I mean, even sex guy was upfront about sex, but these people didn't mention their house was messy at all. Also, is it really my responsibility to have the weight of the plane tickets and costs spent to get me here, as I've taken a big risk too, and gone through a lot to get here, and now am jobless, and feel guilty. Please y'all give me some advice.

85 comments:

nycnanny said...

I would have NEVER taken a position and gotten on a plane with people you have never met and interviewed with. Who knows who these people could have been. It just sounds like a really creepy situation. I am not saying you deserved it but next time I would be a little more careful as to who you accept a job offer from. Meet them first and visit the living situation!!!!!!!!! They don't owe you for the airfare. What were the supposed to say--oh by the way we live like slobs??You chose to move into a strangers home and now you understandably aren't comfortable--not their fault!! Learn from this mistake and move on.

UmassSlytherin said...

OP, before I lay into you, I want you to know that I am glad you are safe. K. Now that that's out of the way...

What the F were you thinking?????? Geez. You're lucky to be f-ing alive!!!! Damn, girl!!! The only advice I have, and I hope you take it, is to be more cautious in the future when you get on a freaking plane to go nanny for a family who could be really bad, sick people.

Geez. Again, I'm glad you're safe, and I hope you get home soon.

Marissa M. said...

I guess you live and learn.

Next time, interview at their home first. They could fly you in.

Just leave, this all sounds nasty and creepy to me too.

They should not of had bribed you with a ticket to travel. So I hope you get to go to mexico at least!

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mom said...

OMG!!!!!!!!!!
I was scared the entire time I was reading this.
You went to Mexico? MEXICO!!!!!!
Without ever meeting the people and AFTER you had already caught her in a huge lie?
Do you know what can happen to girls in Mexico?
And do you know how much recourse you have if something does? NONE.

As I read your post I became more and more fearful that you had been forced into the underworld sex trade, or forced into a slavery situation, and were writing this years after the fact after having somehow made a miraculous escape. I'm not kidding.

Go home! Your parents must be insane with fear by now.

And poop on your floor is a -10 on a scale of 1 to 10 of what your concerns ought to be at this moment. And just in case oyu are still unconvinced...just how rational and sane do you think people are who live with poop and garbage on their floor for extended periods of time...with small kids in the house no less!!? Run!!!

lovesthegirls said...

OP-- because everyone else has already layed into you, I will do less so. First, THANK GOD ALMIGHSTY YOU ARE ALIVE. Second, PLEASE listen to what everyone else is saying. And-- for all the nannies out there that are looking for jons, what the hell was the name of this website that evidently attracts the crazies???

lovesthegirls said...

that was jobs.... sorry I can not type on my laptop to SAVE my soul :)

mom said...

BTW, my husband once has a case where a family was hiring girls from other countries to come work for them...and after they were here for a bit, they held them captive and forced them to work for free...all the while mistreating them physically...in a variety of ways, if I recall correctly. And this was in the United States! Eventually they were caught and chargesd with white slavery type crimes. (And...here's the kicker...they tried to get their homeowners insurance to cover all of the expenses resulting form the legal battle!)
Bad, bad people.

OP. please run away...TODAY. I would leave without telling them, go to the airport and get out of Mexico before they realize you are gone. I'm not kidding. Don't worry about what they have spent on you. That was all a manipulation to get you to go to Mexico. They knew it and they planned it that way from the beginning. There is no Italy house and no fancy vacation in your future with them. The cash to tide you over before the job started should have been a huge red flag. They know how to manipulate...obviously...and this was very calculated. You don't know if they are bringing girls over one at a time or not. Who in Mexico hires a girl from the US, who would undoubtedly want more pay than the thousands of girls in Mexico who are hungry and would work for almost nothing?! And obviously their standards are completely nonexistent, since they hired you sight unseen the moment you contacted them...so it can't be that they wanted a better standard of care for their kids. I mean, even people here in America often prefer to hire Mexican nannies for the cost savings.

There are huge red flags waving all over the place here. The more I think abut this, the more scared...no TERRIFIED... I am for you.

GO NOW!!!! Really, you may lose your opportunity at any moment...especially if they get wind of your plans to go.

And, when you get back to the US safely, canoyu write back to us an let us know you are safe?

UmassSlytherin said...

I don't mean to be a maniac, but I'm emailing jane right now about this, don't know if anything can be done, but in all honesty I am scared for this girl. Don't want to freak you out OP but you need to go now. And if you don't have the money, call home and get it wired and mom is right: don't tell them either. you need to leave now. if you went to the police, it would not be out of line at this point, but you really need to go home a.s.a.p. however you can, get out.

xfileluv said...

I can see I am not the only who felt sick the entire time while reading this entry.

OP, get out now. Don't tell you are leaving, just get your stuff and get to the airport immediately. And when you are safe at home, watch the movie Trade: http://www.imdb.com/title/tt0399095/

And never, ever, do something like this again. I'm so glad you are okay, but that can still change. Get out. Now.

xfileluv said...

Sorry to piggyback...my post is supposed to read "don't tell them you are leaving."

And the more I think about this, what "nanny website" did you register with? They should be alerted to both of these potential employers. Do they not have any criteria for joining the site? Sounds as if anyone can contact anyone, which is not how you want to find a job.

caroline said...

I'm pretty sure I didn't misread the fact that the OPhasn't gone to Mexico yet. The ticket was booked but after one night at the family's home she wants to leave -- BEFORE they go to Mexico.

Regardless of that, it is a scary situations

mom said...

No, she's in Mexico...which is why her dad had t fly her back.

I would be hesitant to contact the mexican police...because I have heard a lot of terrible things about what the Mexican police will do too. Very corruot there. And if these peopel ar einto something bad, chances are the police know about it and may be even on the payroll.

If you want to contact the US embassy that might be safer. Let them know you are leavig for the airport now and you need them to check up on it and make sur eoyu got here and out of the country.

These people may be unwilling to "lose their investment." Do not tip them off that you are leaving.

And, BTW, whose computer are you using? Besure to wipe the history clear when you ahve been on here!

Mimi in my Mumu said...

No, she wasnt in Mexico yet. Can't you all read? The Mexico trip is coming up. She IS at their house. In America! So all of you with the great advice of "interview at their house first", basically that's where she's at now.

OP, treat this phase as the interview process. Now decline the job. Done.

lovesthegirls said...

MY DEAR, SWEET OP THAT I AM PRAYING FOR:
This is on a "how to be a nanny" type website.... HMMM... READ NUMBER ONE! PLEASE PLEASE GET OUT... PLEASE.....

http://www.4nannies.com/info/nannyfaq1.cfm?x=n#smoke

Red Flags....
Family offers to hire you without interviewing

Family offers you money in advance

ANY references to a cruise ship

ANY references to Africa

ANY references to textile importing or fashion boutique

AMAZING salaries or work conditions. No, you will not get hired for a $2000 a week, 5 hour a day job without an interview!

Mother died in a horrible car accident

Asking you to open a bank account, especially with Wells Fargo

Needs a 'favor' with you to forward money someplace for medical care ... furniture moving ... child's tuition ... payment to colleague ... via Western Union

UmassSlytherin said...

mimi,

I think I can speak for all of us when I say: yes, we can read. OPs post was a little spotty as far as explaining the where and when, if you ask me. I wasn't quite sure but it sounded to me as if she still got on a plane to an unfamiliar location. Regardless of if she is in mexico yet or not, she is still in an unsafe situation and should get out, imo.

mom said...

Well, if she's not in Mexico, thank God for small favors!

Now maybe Jane can alert somebody in law enforcement to this nanny site (OP can you provide the information about what site you found these people on? And possibly the names of these people, or an e-mail address so they can be checked out beofre another young girl finds out too late) and to the people who OP has been hired by and they can check just to be sure these people have not hired every young girl on the site. It sounds really horrible and suspicious to me...and although no crime has been committed...yet...there are now agencies that look into potental internet predators and try to prevent the crimes before they happen.

Mimi in my Mumu said...

Well, obviously she should leave, no doubt about it, but JEEZ, it's clear as a bell that the Mexico trip is upcoming. Everyone with their frantic advice to "call the Mexican police" and "Don't tell them you're leaving, just RUN!".

SwissNanny said...

Unfortunently, this sort of situation is very common with aupairs. I know as I am one! lol. Young women (and sometimes men) want to have a cultural experience in another country. Most, such as myself, are college educated women with years of childcare experience. We are not able to, generally, meet the families that we interview with by phone. We register with "agencies", and expect them to do their jobs, and properly screen the families before giving them our info. I have had a few problems with my current family, as many of you know, but my problems pale in comparison with some of the issues my friends here have had to face. A good friend of mine is on her 4th family, in a span of 18 months. This is through no fault of her own. She has been placed with the most G*d awful families! So, I have a point (I promise :) ), I feel for the OP and this situation. Sometimes, all you can do is trust the agency and the family not to screw you over. And I have seen firsthand, this is not always the case!!

LindaLou said...

oh honey, get out now. these people live like animals. they've lied to you and will continue to lie!

sydney white said...

I just had a sketchy situation and am becoming more and more leary of the online nanny sites. This is a well known site too.This happened about 3 months ago.

I was contacted by a man claiming to have twin 2 year old boys. He needed a temp nanny for 2 weeks in my area as he had been contracted to do some work by a local company.

He said he liked my profile and wanted further info so he could send me a check to secure my nanny services. He also asked me if I had a problem watching the children in his hotel room and accompanying them to the hot tub after he finished work?
Red Flags!!!
I declined the job asap.
He emailed me twice more.I blocked him and before I could contact the site I had registered on, They sent me an email telling me I should no longer be contacted by this guy and that he no was no longer a client.

Creepy!

Beware..to all of you nannies..take someone with you to your interviews. meet in public if possible for the first time. Then go scope out the home you will work in. Once you are in,If your instinct yells.."red flag" or even whispers "red flag" get the hell out!

OP, email your cousin who is a few hours away, or call and have him pick you up, asap.You will find another job, right not that is the last thing you should worry about honey. Just get home.Lots of prayers.

Shoot, this is a pretty well read site,maybe you are close to one of us! Depending on your location, one of us might just come get you out of there.Thats an idea!
let us know when you are safe kiddo.

ericsmom said...

I agree with everyone on here. Actually, my heart skipped a beat..when reading this. I hope you get out of there safely.

You don't know what these people have planned for you. They may want to use you like a sex slave.

Please, just try and slip out.
Once you get home, don't ever ever take a job overseas. Especially, with people you don't know.

Try and get a taxi to the airport if you can. Even if you have to sleep on the chair for a nite. At least it will be safe. If you tell these people no, you don't know if they may turn on you. And become like the devil.

minneapolis nanny said...

i'm really annoyed with nannies asking for someone to tell them whether following their gut was okay. look, OP... YOU MADE THE RIGHT CHOICE.

minneapolis nanny said...

wait... you're still there?! jesus girl- what are you doing?

Kensington said...

I call BS on this story.

Good try though.

Hellcat said...

I must be having an off day.
I merely raised an eyebrow to her flying to these people, but was thoroughly mortified that she knows children are living in dog waste and hasn't called the proper authorities.

check out CNN online said said...

Ironic. CNN online has a similar story posted today. Excepting this family claimed they were hostages an no nanny.

kathleencares said...

I agree with the other comments - you should be more careful! Take care of yourself and get out of there. This family sounds strange, and nobody needs to live in those conditions. Don't feel guilty - it just didn't work out. Get out, and I hope you learn a valuable lesson from this.

mom said...

mimi,
I reread and it is not completely clear whether she is in Mexico or the US. She just went to the people's home. The only locations mentioned are Italy and Mexico. And why would she have had a Mexico plane ticket in her name right off the bat, instead of the ticket to their house first,,,and then later a Mexico ticket.

OP, write again. 1) We want to know where exactly you are and 2) we need to know if oyu're ok. If oyu're in Mexico maybe somebody form the embassy can arrange to have oyu picked up and transported to the airport if you tell them you are in a situation over your head and feel like you are in danger. And if you are in Mexico. make no mistake, you are in danger.

JerseyXJacqui said...

I'm sorry if I have to be the only "mean" one here, but I would never put my trust in someone to care for my kids when they obviously lack blatant common sense. Sheesh. That's just plain scary.

I really hope this actually IS a lesson learned and not just another supportive cliche. Be safe, OP.

UmassSlytherin said...

JJ,
Hopefully op is like Anne of Green Gables, who said "I never make the same mistake twice."

got an A in reading comprehension said...

I know this is beside the point, but it is driving me CRAZY ...

It seems very clear that OP is not in Mexico. Her new boss had offered to pay for all of her travel accomodations (to the house where she would be living/working) AND to pay for the costs of her traveling with them to Italy. The Italy trip was later changed to a trip to Mexico. I don't understand the confusion about OP being in Mexico right now, but it seems pretty obvious that she is not.

OP is asking for advice about what to do BEFORE the family leaves for Mexico, either with or without her. It seems that comments with advice about THAT would be more helpful than comments about contacting the embassy and alerting the Mexican police.

JerseyXJacqui said...

I got an A in reading comprehension too...However, I missed the whole "not being in mexico" thing at first. OP was ALL over the place and at times was pretty hard to follow. In fact, I'm still incredibly confused by her. This whole post is odd.

Umass, WWAD?
What WOULD Anne do in this situation?

UmassSlytherin said...

got an A in Reading Comprehension,

It is a bit spotty the way OP is telling the story. I think you are correct that she has not actually gone to Mexico yet, after reading it through a few times but it's not crystal clear by any means. Furthermore, Mom's advice as well as the other people here who have expressed fear and horror, myself included, is good advice that OP should take.

Your moniker is ridiculous. I doubt it's true too: come on, you never took a class entitled "Reading Comprehension." They didn't have whole classes called that. I think it was just one part of English class that you were graded on, if I'm not mistaken.

JJ, Good question.

I think Anne Shirley would hightail it back to the farm to make out with Gilbert some more where it's freaking safe.
Word.

beside the point said...

sorry, guys. i did say that i knew it was beside the point ...

i did think it was clear that she wasn't in mexico, but i can understand if others didn't. the post was incredibly hard to follow. i suppose i was just taken aback that mom seemed set on the fact that she was in mexico. mom always offers great advice and i was more interested in hearing what she (and others) would say about the situation ASIDE from that related to the Mexican authorities and so on.

yes, my moniker is ridiculous and wasn't meant to be anything but. i don't recall entire classes called reading comprehension, but it was a subject that we were given an individual grade on in elementary school and was also an entire section on either the SAT or ACT. and, while i'm being totally honest, i didn't get an A in it ... despite being an avid reader and going on to get a B.A. and an M.A. in english literature! :)

UmassSlytherin said...

I have a degree in English Lit. and I am currently writing fan fiction for free.

I mean, I have a job and stuff, but still. Those English degrees are freaking useless. Just sayin'.

Get out said...

I don't care if you are in the U.S.A. or not. Your situation sounds very scary. DO NOT travel with them anywhere. For now pack up your bags and get OUT! If possible have someone pick you up and don't tell them you are leaving. After you are safely out, call the authorities over the squalor these children live in.

Parkland Pam said...

I swear I can not take all you well-meaning people giving such idiotic advice like "SLIP OUT!". What do you want her to do, go out a window and hitchhike to the nearest airport?

No one has given her the following advice, so I guess it's up to me to do it:

Tell them you're sorry but it's not a good fit.

Go back to where you came from.

Chalk it up to a lesson learned.

Next time, DON'T BE SO STUPID!!!

UmassSlytherin said...

wow pam.
you're like freaking doctor phil.

mom said...

My advice if she is not in Mexico (I see on closer inspection that she may not be...but as Umass points out, that's not perfectly clear)is to get the hell out. And yes, this is creepy enough that I think she ought to slip away. It can't hurt. Then call mom and tell her that she is not accepting the job...and then call the authorities, because the possibility of a baby munching on dog feces tidbits is beyond disgusting. I also think the authorities need ot be notified about this site and exactly what went down with OP and these employers...because they sound just enough off that they could pose a danger to other young girls.

You just can't be too careful when it comes to the potential of young, vulnerable girls being victimized.

Get out said...

Parkland Pam,

You are correct that it is hard to leave a situation when you have no transportation. But I live in the middle of the woods and I still have the ability to call a taxi. Yeah, it would be a $50+ ride but if it would save my life heck yeah I'd take it. My friend recently had to go to the hospital in an ambulance from our campsite. Another friend rode with her. They were going to call us to pick them up when she was discharged. Oops. We didn't have cell reception at our campsite. What did they do? Took an hour and a half taxi back! There is always an option and always a way out. Worse case scenario...call the police business line. Not 911. Say you took a job and now feel unsafe and wish to leave even though nothing criminal has occured. Ask for an escort. Problem solved. (And don't say they don't do it. My husband is a cop and escorts girls who feel unsafe ALL the time. Even from work to their cars if they call. Like if they see someone creepy in the parking lot and don't want to walk out.)

Yaya said...

Run away! Sounds like they knew what they were doing. They probably can't get anyone to work for them in their nasty house so they sneak-attack you into a position, hoping you'll love the family and ignore the messy house. Yuck, yuck, yuck. I cannot work in filth.
And...I've learned this the hard way too...if it sounds too good to be true, it is.

Marissa M. said...

They called the cops? What a crazy bitch.

So are you paying for your airfare to mexico/reimbursing them? I sure hope not and if you do I suggest you use the flight to your advantage!

You need to contact that website with a complaint. Or a news paper. Those people are going to do so with other girls and I would hate for other people to be taken advantage of like that.

Thank goodness you got out safe. I'm sure the cop must of had thought she was nuts.

JerseyXJacqui said...

Wow OP! This woman needs psychiatric help! Imagine working for her??? Oy. Her dogs can't go outside if it's raining? They must be the new super-breed that melt when even a drop of water hits them. Strange.

Haha I agree with Marissa...the cops probably got a good laugh about that later on down at the station.

Glad your out said...

Did the cops go inside the house? They are mandated reporters. If the house was so bad they should have called the social workers in.

One more thing said...

They don't like strangers in their house? Weren't you a stranger lol? That is very scary. I am so glad your cousin was able to help you.

East Elm said...

I call BS on this entire posting.

Marypoppin'pills said...

Can we please not make assumptions about whether any posting is true or false? We have to give every OP the benefit of the doubt, especially those that involve the report of a child. If we were to start picking through those we thought might be false, we may actually miss the chance to help a child.
Thank you.

East Elm said...

Yeah, fine, MaryPoppinPills—let's just let every troll run amuck on here. Stating that you don't think a story rings true merely gives another perspective. A good example: It wasn't till about 20 posts in that everyone had to be told the OP wasn't even in Mexico. So, sorry, the answer to your question ("Can we please not make assumptions about whether any posting is true or false?") is NO.

Thank you.

mom said...

Wow OP.
You do not have to pay for the Mexico trip under any circumstances. Maybe you had implied that you might be willing to spend the summer in a fabulous house in Italy...but NEVER Mexico.

JJ is right. the lady is off balance mentally.

And you need to have somebody go check out the condition of that house. It will probably end up with at least somebody getting a psych evaluation. The kids deserve better than that. Read down to the ferel child story. Tragic.

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lovesthegirls said...

Wait..... did I miss a post??? Is she out??? It sounded like some of the comments were saying she got out....

lovesthegirls said...

Nevermind!!! Just found it. LOL

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sometimes I wonder.... said...

East elm.... how come your panties are in a bunch? Mary simply asked politely for ALL posts not to be discriminated against. While you are certainly entitled to your oppinion, can you please not jump down throats? Its not nice.

Kensington said...

When a story doesn't make even basic sense, it usually means it is a lie.

I realize you want and need the traffic but really, if you encourage all people in need of attention to post here, you dilute the power of the site and you become a big joke that no one, not just me, takes seriously.

"we may actually miss the chance to help a child"

Let's pretend this child really does exist. According to the story the nanny is now gone and no one has called CPS.

Please enlighten me as to exactly how this child has been helped?

UmassSlytherin said...

I am sort of irritated with people harrassing the administrators of this blog. It is their blog, and they not only do a great job with it, but are both really kind, nice people and are not deserving of your rude and unhelpful criticism.

This post was, I felt, very very helpful because it opened our eyes to and reminded us of an issue that is extremely relevant to nannies: use caution when interacting with potential employers. This issue cannot be discussed enough if you ask me. I feel sorry for the children in the post: perhaps someone will read it and recognize the family.

All you naysayers are just jealous that you didn't think of this blog first. When it becomes famous someday and the rest of us are being interviewed on Regis and Kelly, you can say, "And I was mean to ISYN." Then how will you feel, you big sillyasses. Word.

mom said...

Hey,
I see I have two posts that were removed. What's up with that? I haven't said anything even remotely bad. (Unless...did somebody use my moniker, or what?)One looks like I just forgot to use a moniker..oops.

Most curious.

UmassSlytherin said...

mom,
I think you double posted on one of those by accident and it was removed.

mom said...

Ahhhh...thanks Umass. Mom must go eat. Apparently I am in need of "recharging." hehehe

Marypoppin'pills said...

"Stating that you don't think a story rings true merely gives another perspective. A good example: It wasn't till about 20 posts in that everyone had to be told the OP wasn't even in Mexico."
- East Elm

The OP's post definately needed more clarity. But that doesn't mean she was lying about everything.

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"Let's pretend this child really does exist. According to the story the nanny is now gone and no one has called CPS.
Please enlighten me as to exactly how this child has been helped?"
- Kensington

The whole purpose of this site is to report Nannies that abuse or neglect children. We hope that by posting it on this Blog, the Parent notices it and removes the child from the Nannies care.

I mean, obviously, once in awhile a post comes through that looks like it's been written by a Troll.
The others, well, we have to give them the benefit of the doubt.

Bottom line, it isn't about needing the Traffic. It's more about insulting the people that Submit posts. No one wants to feel like they're trying to do a good thing, only to get bashed for it.

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Mom,
You doubled-posted. :)

Faith said...

Even if this was fiction, it was interesting and exciting, kept me in suspense and has a partial happy ending. I don't see this as a joke but rather a worthy read. Either way.

nycnanny said...

I agree with you, faith. We all know things like this happen, and doesn't always end up like it did for OP. So, either way, it is a lesson learned, and that makes this post worthy!

LindaLou said...

i'm glad you updated, OP. now make sure you call CPS on these dog-sh*t-loving freaks! that baby is going to be crawling soon!

nycnanny said...

Glad to know you got out of this creepy situation. I would chalk it up as a lesson learned and be thankful that you are SAFE.

fox in socks said...

So did you tell the cops that the children are living in squalor with animal feces all over the place? I hope you did. If not, will you call and tell them?

jill in paradise valley said...

East Elm,
You are obviously not a nanny and you don't know any nannies. Anyone who has ever worked as a nanny knows some of the crazy stories and this one is nothing compared to what I have heard and in some cases been a part of. I hate that I feel if I were to tell my story you would call me a liar. But I will tell you this much, it will make the bitch I used to work for feel mighty good that no one would believe my story. She was a neglectful, narcissistic, sexaholic, alcholohic C-NT.

chick said...
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chick said...

If you paid this "agency", you got a raw deal, IMO. Most reputable agencies, whether on-line or not, do NOT charge the nanny a fee.

When you are ready to look for a new job, I suggest an on-line agency that is based in the US, not the UK.

enannysource.com and 4nannies.com are both great sites.

You got lucky this time - next time, please be very careful and insist on staying in a hotel when you travel to interview, arrange to make check-in calls to friends or family, and trust your instincts if things feel hinky.

nataliajay said...

Why do my comments keep getting deleted or not added?

nataliajay said...

Ok, here it goes. I'm the nanny in question. I don't know what you all mean when you say OP, but I did send this story to this blog. I'm out, I've alerted child services and the police, and all is well. I'm also fine, and am going home soon. I'm with family right now in Florida. Thanks for your help. For people who think I was lying I was not. For people who think I made a mistake I have to agree, however please don't insult my intelligence. I put a lot of thought into my decision to come to this home. Also I talked to the family a great deal before I left, and I was not going to a forieng country with them until after a month, so by then I would have known whether I was comfortable with this and could have left. So thanks for your help, I was scared and alone and it was nice to have an outlet to tell my story too, and hopefully this doesn't happen to anyone else again. And also I didn't have to pay to put my profile on the website, but I could not get a full profile, when can I put my resume and profile for free?

Marypoppin'pills said...

Nataliajay
OP means Original Poster, or the person who sent in the Submission.
Your posts weren't deleted, so there must've been some glitch.

We are happy to hear that you are home safe and sound!

Lizzie said...

okay so i've definately heard of going to another country to work. My aunt went through an agency that put her in France with a very pleasant family.

Therefore, as risky as it is. You need to do AS MUCH INTERVIEWS beforehand and really get to know the family before you commit to move there.


if it all seems rushed, or if your gut is telling you its fishy, then it probably is a bad idea.


THANK GOD YOU'RE SAFE!

vi said...

Is their an asshole of the day award? I nominate East Elm. What a dummy.

I AGREE WITH VI!!!!!! said...

WOO HOO VI! LMAO

nataliajay said...

East Elm, thanks for calling me a troll. I hope if something far out and horrible ever happens to you you are given more respect than you have just given me. How could I have even made this stuff up? I wish I had made it up.

op is gonna be ok :) said...

natalia
girl, you are just fine! don't pay any mind to those bubble-headed jerks! 99% of us are glad you are safe with your family! the other 1% don't matter!

mimi said...

okay just to keep you all on track and not mad at me in any other post..I am Mimi..thats it Mimi...and that woman who made you all mad a couple posts up is mimi in my mumu...not me!

Abigail said...

Am also glad that you made it home safe and sound . There is really no sense in living with pigs in human clothing.

kathleencares said...

She called the cops!?! This lady sounds like a total nutcase! Good thing you got out of there.

Jane Doe said...

What do I hate more than spam? I am hard pressed to think of anything.

mom said...

Jane,
I am guessing that only negligent, child endagnering/abusing people top spam on that list!

mom said...

OMG!!!! HOW do I keep doing that!!???

Marypoppin'pills said...

You're doing it on purpose aren't you? LOL

Jane Doe said...

Mom,

You're right, people who abuse or hurt children are on the top of that along with negligent and abusive parents, pedophiles, perverts, killers and thugs.

The spammers are really down there with those who clip their fingernails in public, pop their chewing gum and walk around their cats in a baby sling...