Received Monday, August 11, 2008. - Perspective & Opinion
Hi. I have posted before. I was the one who posted about having to deal with the crazy grandmother who is overbearing and very controlling (ex: wants me to put blankets on a 10 month old in 90 degree weather, comes to "help" but only does laundry and snoops).
Anyway the baby is now almost 13mo. The grandma is still annoying as hell but she only comes maybe twice a month now (thank God). She has backed off a little BUT here is the problem. Since he was about 10 months old or so I have been feeding him table foods and trying to introduce new foods. I cook for him on a daily basis and all of the foods are healthy, etc. Grandma still comes and brings him ALL jarred foods, and I mean like a 2-3 weeks supply at a time, meats, veggies, fruits. I am trying to get him transitioned into table foods and textures but she keeps butting in and bringing the baby foods. The parents are feeding it to him EVERY night that I am not here and let me tell you its out of pure laziness.
I cook lunch for him and almost everyday I wrap the leftovers up for dinner and tell them its in the fridge. So literally instead of them heating up the food they just open up a few jars. Hes 13 months. There is no need for him to be eating jarred strained mushy food. He has like 10 teeth already. I told Grandma that he is eating table foods now and we dont need the jarred food but she still brings it everytime she comes to visit. Also she keeps bringing formula (the kind for 9-24 months). I have talked to Mom and Dad about it being time to transition him to whole milk and they say ok but then they never do it .
Also I always give him a sippycup (I only give him a bottle when I am putting him to sleep for the night). They still dont give him the sippycup and only give him bottles. Also they just give him a bottle whenever he fusses, there is no routine etc. the baby is not overweight but Im afraid with all of the table foods and unnecessary formula he may gain some weight which could lead to problems in the future. Does anyone have any advice?
I really just need some advice. I know he is not my child but I dont think that they have any reasons for doing any of this other than laziness. They have said yes to the milk, table foods, sippycup and they agree with me but then they dont follow through. I dont want to step on their toes as I really like my job , its just frustrating.