Received Tuesday, July 8, 2008 - Perspective & Opinion
I have been working with a great family for the past 10 months almost 11. I am responsible for the care of their 10 month old son and I love doing it. I love him so much and think of him as my own. When I was interviewed, which was at least a month and a half in advance to the baby's birth, both parents assured me that they would be going back to work, Mr X planned on taken 3 weeks leave from his job when the baby was born and Mrs X decided that she needed 6-7 months maternity leave. After the 6 months was up Mrs X decided that she wanted to work from home instead and proclaimed she would not be returning to the office anytime soon. I was certainly OK with the new arrangements and I welcomed the company. But mid way thru the 7th month nearing the 8th I began getting these strange feelings and noticing even stranger gestures from Mrs X : a) Mrs X did not trust me with her baby, despite the length of time that I've been working with her (and personally I feel if someone does not trust a Nanny with their baby they should not hire him/her for the job) b)she was becoming overbearing and very watchful of me and the baby c) she expressed the fact that she wants her baby to love only her d) doesn't want the baby to be attached to me or the father or anybody else e) sneaks up on me when I'm changing the baby's diaper or clothes f) hovering over me when I make bottles or when it's feeding time g) doesn't allow me to take formula with me on day trips to the park h) refuses to switch to powdered formula so I'll always have to come back to the house to feed the baby i) when I feed him his cereal she always, always interrupts the session with playful gestures distracting him and then in turn leaving baby X half full and very cranky j) in her opinion baby X is never tired, she refuses to let him sleep in the day time. I can go on about the things she does but I won't. I should work at least 12 hours every day with this family but in reality I work only 4-6 hours with the baby (one on one time). Some might say why complain about that, but I take my job very seriously and I try my best to do my best. Honestly I don't mind the current situation, but that was not the original contract we made and to be very honest I don't feel comfortable. Should I leave? Should I confront her on the issue?. What should I do???