Received Tuesday, July 8, 2008 - Perspective & Opinion
Background: I am a nanny for 2 children. Both are in camp all day long this summer. As in from 830-5. I am still being paid my same salary even though I basically work 1/2 hour in the morning and an hour at night. The deal was that I would run errands to help the parents catch up on some things and get ready for the school year and vacation.
I have been doing this for two weeks. At first, the mother was leaving me lists. Flip flops for this child, dry cleaning drop off, pick up tuna salad at the deli, mail this package to her sister for her birthday, etc. Last week, the father started adding on his errands. The mother doesn't know what the father asks me to do and the father doesn't know what the mother asks me to do. Normally, this would not be a problem. The father has a job that is of some importance, but not nearly as important as he thinks it is or he is. He takes a lot of steps to guarantee his privacy. For example, last Tuesday, he had me drop off some film to develop at his friend's private home because he couldn't risk pictures of his family getting lost at CVS or a photo kiosk. When he has me run errands, regardless of the errand, he always tells me, "make sure they know it's for me". Usually, I will say, "I'm XYJ's nanny, but he wanted me to remind you that this service is for him or but I am dropping off his suit or he wanted me to ask you to inspect his scuba equipment. I mean, he all but said to drop his name. This part is just a rant because it's only a little annoying. I can see the people roll his eyes when I recite my "It's for XYJ" speech. Last Thursday, he asked me to pick up a package at an apartment. And so I did. The package was wrapped in dark blue paper with little stars. He added this errand to a list of about 7.
I was shocked to realize I had actually driven into a whole complex of projects. I didn't even know such things existed in this area. The person who gave me the package didn't look like my employer or anyone he would be getting a gift from. I thought nothing of this. I remind myself not to be judgmental. Today, he calls me at work and asks if I could pick up a package at the same location. And so I do. He asks me to put it in the top drawer of his chest. I do. Same man. Same gift wrap. Same approximate shape. No exclamation. And this is the only errand I run where I don't mention his entire name. *Usually I use his first, middle and last name. Both times I have gone here, I have asked for the gift for "X".
Besides the fact that he has made me his errand girl, I am just wondering about your opinion on this. What legitimate item could be contained in this gift wrapped package?
I do appreciate all the advice you have given, but I haven't taken any of it. I am still running the same errands I was last week. I have been back to the projects once. I am just not assertive enough to use your advice, I doubt that is what you wanted to hear. The good news is in 4 weeks the whole family goes to the Hampton's and I am off for 2 weeks. When we all return, I am back to my regular routine which does not include errand running. -JL