Received Monday, July 7, 2008 - Perspective & Opinion
What do you think of this? I am a nanny for 4 + years. I have been with this job for 2 years and I have been married for three months. My husband and I live four miles from where I work, so sometimes my husband stops by or we run in to him when we are out or my husband and I run in to the people I work for when we are out on a weekend. The family is always happy to see me and very nice to my husband. I make about $40K a year as a nanny and my husband makes about the same in his blue collar job. He seems to have some issue with that. On Sunday, yesterday, my husband pulled up to the gas station as my male boss was gassing up. My male boss went over and shook my husbands hand, asked about me and then said, "Hey, X, how about I buy you a tank of gas". He popped his credit card in the slot as my husband was arguing and handed him the nozzle. My husband supposedly said, "you shouldn't have done that, thanks". When he came home, he was raging mad. He was yelling at me about being disrespected by my boss. He was screaming "I can buy my own damn gas". He went off saying just because he didn't live in a 7 bedroom house didn't mean he was poor, didn't mean he needed help. He said he was happy with his life and it was a respectable life. I listened to him and I tried to calm him down. When I wouldn't see eye to eye with him on this, he ended the fight by saying, "what do you have a thing for him? Is that why he is buying you gas". He stormed off to bed and I have not spoken to him since. My boss does well for himself but he is very generous and down to earth. He would have said "How about I buy you a tank of gas" had it been his best friend or his sister.
Believe me when I say, both of my employers are really, really nice people. They treat me with respect and incredible generosity. They have gone above and beyond for me and as a result, some of my accomplishments or the things I have, when I reference them I do speak about how I got them, which leads back to my employers. My husband acts like he is fed up with my job and suggests I am too caught up in their life and I should prepare myself because sometime soon, the witch is going to snatch it all away, and then what? Since my marriage, this has become a recurring conversation. My husband and I both come from the same background, have the same education level and make about the same amount of money. I don't understand why he has so much negative attention focused on my employers. I would never entertain the thought of quitting my job. My husband will suggest that I should and that I could make more money working for another family. It is true that with my experience, I could make more money annually, but I doubt the family would be so generous with bonuses and gifts and I sincerely doubt they would be as kind. I have no desire whatsoever to leave this family. My husband told me, 'your loyalty is bizarre'.