Received Sunday, June 8, 2008 - Perspective & Opinion
Hi. I am not a nanny but I babysit. One of the families I babysit for, the father and my father are friendly. My Dad thinks this guy is a nice guy. And he is, he is always nice to me. He is cheerful and happy around his children and he shows me respect as a babysitter. I can't help notice and I feel bad for even thinking there is a problem, but the father has a strong preference for his daughters. I can see this as a babysitter and the two other girls will tell me about things that the oldest gets to do or gets away with that they cannot, and these are not age specific things, more like behaviors. All three girls are close in age and participate in the same activities. I have also noticed that the father disciplines the other two girls appropriately but with her, he either avoids discipline or does discipline and then soon after does something to make up for it. (?) Like I said, I feel bad even thinking it could be something weird. The daughter doesn't seem unhappy but she definitely behaves in a way that makes me think and I know this is so strange, but it makes me think that she could have something on him. What are the chances that something is wrong? If I was more certain, I would say something to my parents, but I don't want them to think I even think like that, especially since I only babysit for him 2 or 3 times a month.