Received Thursday, May 22, 2008 - Rant
I would just like to say.....
As a wonderful, dedicated and loving nanny, I am appalled by the amount of "bad" nannies out there. I, like you, think it is shameful for kids to be dragged around shopping, alternately ignored and yelled out, pulled, pushed, and emotionally neglected by a plethora of women and people without the necessary skills or capabilities to watch children.
However...I would also like to say I am almost more appalled by the constant negative connotations surrounding the people who watch most of your children 50 hours a week.
First and foremost it is your job as a parent to make sure that your children are happy and well-loved. That means paying people proper wages for their time, thanking them for extra work, and following through on promises you make during the hiring process, i.e "Time off with pay for sick days and holidays!"
Secondly, don't judge a book by it's cover. Maybe your nanny sighting is you witnessing a nanny who just needs a break. Maybe she has been working for two weeks straight while the parents are in Cancun on vacation and she knows her charge a thousand times better then you and knows he or she is happy and content to play by themselves. I cannot tell you the amount of times I have had to take my charges kicking and screaming from a playground because they don't want to leave. If you caught five minutes of our exchange, I might look like the worst nanny in the world, when really I am simply setting limits and boundaries for the kids I love and adore.
Thirdly and most importantly, you guys need a wake-up call. The expectations you hold nannies to on this sight are laughable. SAHM and working moms for that matter do not spend every waking hour playing with their children. At play Gym class I cannot tell you the amount of moms who talk the entire time while nannies and their charges roll and wrestle on the floor. Everyone is human. Everyone deserves some slack and their is a huge difference between serious neglect/abuse and the majority of sightings on here which sound like people with nothing exciting going on in their own lives.
Finally, as a side note, I would just like to say unless you KNOW (as in, you have proof) that someone is a nanny, you cannot say for sure. An African American women with a white baby does not automatically mean nanny, just as a middle aged woman dresses in house slippers does not spell mom.
Think about it.