I am a park bench nanny.I am a couch potato nanny.
I do a 20 minute project with your kids so I can tell you we did arts and crafts today.
I know what time you should be pulling up so I grab some books 5 minutes before hand and we sit down so when you walk in I'm reading to your kids.
We bake slice and bake cookies so I can tell you we baked today.
I take them to the park and sit and read or talk on the phone while they run around for hours then I tell you went to the park and had so much fun! I play with them for about 30 minutes total out of a 3 hour park outing because kids have no concept of time. They report to you that nanny X played a lot with us and you are happy.
I give your kids Ice-cream and cake and candies so they love me, that's why they cry for me and ask me to come more and tell you they wish I could move in with you.
I almost never report their troubled behavior, that X bit someone at the park or Y hit his sister and pulled her hair. I report just enough so you don't get suspicious but not too much because I want to keep the illusion you have that your children are perfect. I am well groomed and well spoken. My references are glowing and I have done this for over 20 years. I have a spotless background and driving record so paying a ton of money to look into my past will yield exactly the results you are looking for.
Why some of you may ask. Well I will tell you.
You have made me this way.
When I chose childcare as my profession I went in with the innocent idea that I would be a viable part of a child's life. That you would treat me with respect. I thought you would respect the fact that I had a life and family of my own and that you would honor the agreements for responsibilities, duties, paid time off and raises that we made and often put down in writing. In 20 years, I have worked for 3 different families, not one of them did this. Oh, it started out OK, then you came home late without asking or even calling, you started not paying me for sick days even though I rarely called out. You decided to you couldn't afford a raise for me this year even though you got yours, your husband got his and you took a cruise to Alaska, a trip to the Caribbean and saw Euro Disney that same year. Of course these things happened with different families but they always end up the same. Treating me like a servant instead of the person who is responsible for your children's well being and happiness.
Things are just going South with family number 4 now. I start out being a great nanny, involved, attentive and everything you said you wanted in your ad. You started out being a great family, treating me well and with respect. Not asking me to walk your dog, or do your dishes or laundry. You used to ask if I could stay late not ignoring the fact that my husband made dinner for our anniversary and you knew this and still showed up 2 hours late and I went home to a cold plate to be reheated in the microwave. You bait me and reel me in and when I am settled and happy, you change because you know I don't want to have to change jobs so you begin playing your games. Check. But while I will never harm them or treat your kids badly you are not getting the loving nurturing person you advertised anymore because you killed her. I am the one watching your kids and I am not doing a great or even very good job. Checkmate.
Why post this? To try to make parents realize how important it is to treat their nanny well.
For the record, I personally think this person sounds like an ass. -JD
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«Oldest ‹Older 201 – 271 of 271After attempting to digest all these meandering, maniacal and often-menacing posts (that's "alliteration" for all you grammar/spelling obsessives out there twiddling your toes), I think I need a ZANAX!!! Sheesh!
That's right, folks---it's "Zanax" OR "Xanax", both spellings are acceptable and refer to the identical medication.
Now where's that prescription?
Well here I am but not to apologize. For those who think saying "two wrongs don't make a right" is an apology- it's not. For anyone who thinks metronanny had something meaningful to add to the 'debate' last evening, she didn't. She did try to insinuate that I posted anonymously in an effort to back my own posts up. I didn't. For anyone who thinks Jane enjoys having vulgar, lascivious language on her blog, I doubt it.
If I was mistaken in thinking "manhattanmamma" was trying to be deceptive via her moniker, then I was mistaken. I've been wrong before. I still have my doubts about her post whereby she states she was set straight about how to treat her nanny by the original poster. You see, I also doubt that she has a nanny, but my doubts are mine to have, even though I do not begrudge anyone else for believing differently.
I do not request nor expect an apology from this poster. Who knows? She might just pull her apology out of the same place she stores her "special, big words".
All that aside, of course I welcome her to this blog as I would anybody with a true concern for the welfare of children.
6:33
Actually, you make a good point. There is no rhyme or reason for some people to pick a particular moniker, and I am one of them.
I just thought it was funny.
Sprak:
"You are very transparent and overly defensive"
LOL, Sprak, you are the most defensive poster on this site, You snipe back and forth with anyone who disagrees with you ad finem.
M. Court Mamma,
Don't waist your time trying to reason with Sprak, she will just resort to name calling. Many have learned, it is best to ignore the nonsense, and move on.
not everyone would think your moniker is funny, but you do and that's all that matters.
Um, I don't know what I did, but I'm not gonna bite, ok?
Thanks, though.
Ahhhh, lighten up. Show me a person who doesn't see the intended humor in the name MaryPoppin'Pills and I'll show you a person with one too many sticks stored in her "special place."
Hi MaryPoppin' Pills-
From your friend "from a land long, long ago and far, far away" (or however that went anyway.)
Not up for a brawl today, but thought I'd chime in anonyously anyway.
;)
I think MaryPP explained once before on another thread what Marypoppin'pills stood for. Something about Mary Poppins being an OCD ridden psycho nanny that probably should've needed (and 6:55 will appreciate this!) XANAX!
It was meant to be funny and it is funny.
Sheesh, people! Who digs this hard to try to start a fight on a beautiful Saturday afternoon?
Somebody's pretty bored, huh?
Why all the big deal over somebody's moniker anyway, who really cares?
her friends do ;)
I think MPPs moniker is pretty funny and clever. I just used it as an example because it was an obvious one to use. I hope no one thought I was picking on her. And I am sorry if you mistook it that way MPP.
8:14, Metronanny, and everyone else who offered welcome and support thanks!
Sprak, I don't want or need an apology from you to make my day brighter. You said what you had to and I said what I had to. I will apologize to you for the nasty language I used against you. It was wrong of me to subject the users of this blog to it. I am sorry.
ManhattanMamma..OUTSTANDING!!
::applause::
" a rose is a rose is a rose"
so it's said. I don't think MaryPP means that she is pro-drugs, but I suppose someone could see it that way.
Wow ...
I never thought my moniker would bring so much attention, but it really was meant to be an innocent poke at Mary Poppins and I think 8:42 pretty much explains it, so I'll just leave it at that.
And no, I don't mean it to come across like I'm a proponent of drug use.
And don't worry, I'm not the least bit offended. I know some of you have better stuff up your sleeves than this! lol
Take care everybody!
Manhattan Mamma, you needn't have apologized to her, but in doing so you have elevated yourself to a level Sprak can never hope to reach. Intelligence and literacy are goals one can work towards One can improve on one's knowledge and fatten one's brain. Wisdom and grace, however, are much harder to achieve. Those attributes must be within one's spirit and nurtured constantly so they shine from you for the world to see. Intelligence and literacy never stand a chance when pitted against wisdom and grace, as you have proven.
"fatten one's brain"? ewww. lol
we still <3 you, sprak!
I'm inclined to think an apology was in order for Manhattan Mamma, having used the crude language she did in her outbursts. She did the right thing.
I agree with you lorenza. Sprak may have needed a slight attitude adjustment, but she sure didn't let lose with a bunch of expletives. But those that know who Sprak is, know she was just being herself, and she does tend to come off a bit (commonly used word here) - abrasive.
You just need to decide if you can take it or not. And if you don't want to read her posts, skip over them. Easy.
And to MM, this isn't in any way taking away the credit you do deserve for coming back and apologizing to the posters that read your rant. So thank you for that. :)
I just want to say real quick ...
Manhattanmamma came in real a real BANG! ....
so welcome to the club, honey! LOL
you're right 1:14. sprak's posts don't contain cursing. i enjoy sprak's posts a lot and even agree with her sometimes- -but not always! she's a bit too blunt, though. that's for sure! i did kinda think manhatanmamma came outta nowhere with her pro op post but it must have been a coincidensce
We will never see Sprak apologize because she doesn't have the courage to. Her inflammatory remarks, insulting tone and grandstanding are the sign of true cowardice. To use one of Sprak's favourite expressions, Manhattan Mamma called a spade a spade when she told Sprak off, and the language Mamma used was well deserved and a long time coming.
The fact that some 'anonymous' person is still carrying on about whether 'sprak' is going to apoligize to 'manhattanmamma' really just dumbs down the whole blog. So stop. Go read a book. Pick up trash alongside the freeway. Clean out your jacket closet and do some giving.
Bwahhhh!
Love it!
PS Manhatta Mamma- Manhattan Nanny
And the fact that people are still going off on MM and defending Sprak, whether they use a name or not, is just as dumb. And Ro, according to Sprak's way of thinking you're illiterate. It's spelled APOLOGIZE...why not take some of your welfare check and buy a dictionary.
DO you think Ro really thought apologize was spelled apoligize? Or was it a typo?
What are the chances that all of this blog mayhem is the result of one very angry nanny?
Anyone is free to use any moniker they like. If a nanny wants to call herself Employer, who cares?
I need to pee. Where's my camera?
Thanks guys for the welcome. Yes I certainly can make an entrance when I want to. :)
Or you could have been here all along. It's all good.
I'd hate to close the comments.
See rule #4.
I wonder what kind of anomaly I am.
I am a nanny, I work mostly with ASD and PDD-NOS children, and I have my own kids, so I employ a part time nanny. She's not a babysitter, she deserves to be called nanny because she does so much with them.
6:59 "What are the chances that all of this blog mayhem is the result of one very angry nanny?"
If it is it doesn't say much for our intelligence. After all, many of us bought into it.
I meant to sign my name above... FNG
I used to maintain my own blog. I, like Jane have a full time job and I just couldn't keep updating the blog on a regular basis. Regular for me was every three days or so. When you reach JustJared or Perez style hits, it is obviously worth your time to keep your blog fresh because you have achieved fame, notoriety and made lots of money. I applaud you for keeping the blog updated on a daily basis, thinking of new things to post even when there are no sightings and even monitoring the trolls that show up in your comment section. I tried it for ten months and that was more than enough for me!
Just haft a say I enjoy most all of you.
I like and enjoy Sprak, although not always in agreement (but that's OK. If we all had the same exact thoughts and opinions, how fun would it be to write them here and then have everybody simply reply, "Yes, yes, I wholeheartedly agree"?)
Welcome ManhattanMamma! I'm looking forward to "getting to know" you better too.
Can't we just call this one a draw and move on now? When I first came here I was flamed by several "regulars"...one of whom I'm pretty sure is now one of my favorite posters...but that's OK. You move on. You let the dust settle and forget about it. And maybe one day you two will even be "cyber pals."
Hi Ro, No, I do not think you are illiterate, nor do I appreciate others speaking for me or deciding how I think, especially some anonymous dimwit. To me, a true sign of cowardice is posting anonymously. By the way, Ro, the anonymous poster hurled some cutting insults your way. Are you anticipating an apology since she seems to feel apologies are in order in such cases? Or, could it be that she lacks the courage?
Now, if you'll excuse me, I must gather up my food stamps and be off to the grocery store! ;-)
Not me, Mom! I've always loved you!
☺
(and thanks for yesterday)
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I'd like to give my warmest Welcome to "Manhattanmamma" and anyone else new to the Blog.
And I agree with Mom, let's get on with the show!
Hey Sprak,
Pick me up a gallon of milk, would ya!
Your did say milk, right? :-) I noticed there was a bit of curiosity about your moniker yesterday! Anyway, have your food stamps ready when I bring it by!! And now, I'm off....
Sprak do you live in a single or doublewide?
Sprak lives under a bridge like all good little trolls.
I really wish you guys would cut it out already. Jane said she was going to shut down this thread if it didn't stop.
Um, what was the topic again???
Back to the subject at hand. What do you think the corrupt, morally bankrupt nanny who wrote this post is up to now?
Maybe she's writing rude anonymous posts about Jane and Sprak.
In retrospect, the OP actually did a great service to this blog because she completely validated the need for this blog. Reading her rant or disclosure or whatever it ought be called was, in that sense, worthwhile.
Or maybe Sprak and Ro are writing rude and anonymous attacks against themselves and others to blame OP.
And maybe the moon is made of cheese.
OP came back and updated us and hasn't posted again and I don't wonder why. Not because of the many things that were said against her, but because of the downward spiral this particular blog has taken. In many ways, Sprak, Ro and the horde of other anonymous posters have proven themselves to be almost as vile as they accuse the OP of being. I don't include Manhattan Mamma in this because she lost her cool but at least she had the good grace to apologize and move on.
Sprak's comments go beyond abrasive. To me, she sounds like an uneducated bigot. Sprak owes us all an apology for taking part in such juvenile and crude behavior. I found her East Flatbush comment to be extremely racist, and I would love to hear her explain it away.
This argument was not some one sided attempt from a troll to cause trouble, although I suspect the trolls have joined in at this point. This latest flame war was started by Sprak, there is no denying that. If I pick out a random person here and call them a F-ing wh--re because it's my right and my opinion does that make it right? Absolutely not. If you can't admit that Sprak was wrong to start this and wrong not to apologize, at the very least to the rest of us for taking part in it, then I assure you there will be more of this stupidity to come. Not everyone enjoys Sprak's "charm". And although people like me now know to skip over anything with the moniker Sprak or Ro, a newer person like Manhattan Mamma will almost certainly be picked out, picked on and drawn in again.
9:46
I truly hope not. Manhattanmamma maybe got a little carried away, but I definately believe she's made peace with everyone, even Sprak, so I see no reason for anyone to attack her. Her apology was really admirable.
And I'm pretty sure at the end of one of her posts, Sprak did Welcome Manhattanmamma, and she hasn't said anything against her since. So we can at least hope that is over with.
There are quite a few posters that have been around for a long time while others have come and gone. It honestly does get to be like Family for some of us on this Blog. The only thing that bothers me is if I do see an exceptionally written post, and they don't have a moniker, I can't "follow" them like I would some of the others. I'm sure I'm not the only one who admits they have favorites, and yes, that does include some of those that have been around since the beginning. And Sprak is one of them, so there is a bit of "loyalty" there, for lack of a better word.
I really hope the poster's that have been so bothered by this back and forth stuff can see where I'm coming from. All I'm asking for is a bit of understanding because in the end, we're all here for the same reason.
Aononymoose-AMEN!
I would also like to add that the argument as to whether someone uses a moniker or not is a measure of their bravery has been visited before and is just as ridiculous now as it was then.
sorry for the typo in my moniker and great post MPP.
Thank you, MetroNanny ... I really appreciate that.
I just want to jump in with my two cents.
This post will neither defend nor side with anyone in particular, but I want to explain why I kinda *do* like sprak.
I'm not an abrasive person, and there are times that I will disagree with sprak and some of the other more "vibrant" personalities here. But when i DO agree with one of their posts, it's usually because they are saying it in a way that I wish I could.
They can at times very passionate and it seems easy for them to express themselves, and I kind of wish I could be more outspoken.
Thank you 11:25. Actually, I think you expressed yourself quite well and I do appreciate your support. I know that I can be abrasive at times, but my interest in this blog has always been spurred by its goal of protecting and defending those who cannot do so for themselves. When Manhattanmamma first posted, seemingly to arise out of nowhere, giving kudos to the OP for inspiring her to change her treatment of her nanny, it seemed very odd to me. For me, it was 'shades of the big-chested 2 A's beast' that came in like a lamb but soon proceeded to weack havoc on this blog. Perhaps I was wrong about manhattanmamma and I HOPE I was wrong about MM. If any other posters recall, 2A's posted with many identities either backing herself and/or making dozens of maniacal and disturbing comments.
Perhaps I am a bit too suspicious at times and that may come from the line of work that I was in, so let me say this to manhattanmamma: if I was wrong about your original post and its intentions, I am indeed sorry. I hope everyone here has a wonderful day and I hold no ill feelings toward anyone who may not like me or what I have to say. I have never said that I cannot be wrong, being the imperfect human that I admit to being, nor do I consider myself to be any kind of intellectual. One thing I simply abhor is the posting of anonymous, hateful comments about anyone and I wish that would stop. Those are the comments that I feel reek of cowardice and I vehemently disagree with anyone who feels otherwise.
Anonymoose,
You're part of the problem. You are still carrying on about something someone said in the comment section that wasn't even directed at you. Do you realize how absurd that is?
oh, just one more thing...
to clarify,
the only thing I know about Flatbush is seeing a sign for it when I was riding the train into N.Y. and that it's not near Manhattan. Hey, I live in the mountains, far from N.Y.
Not absurd to me. I was born in Brooklyn, at the now defunct St. Elizabeth Hospital. I lived on East Flatbush Avenue for the first four years of my life, so I very much did take it as a personal insult. And guess what? My East Flatbush raised Mother managed to take me to the Brooklyn Museum of Art, Brooklyn Academy of Music and all the other cultural centers in that great borough.
But don't worry, Ms. Doe. I have had quite enough of your double standards here.
Jane Doe,
This thread was very interesting until some yokels started blubbering about name calling. Toughen up. It's a blog. It's not a house of worship.
I found the comments defending and antagonizing the original nanny to be worth consideration. The rest of this is just so much hooey. As is this post, which you should delete with all the other hooey.
Do you think Gawker would put up with what you put up with?
Wahhh you said a bad thing about East Flatbush. Give me a break. I was born and raised in Bed Stuy and get my balls busted on a daily basis. Do you think I care what some yenta on a blog has to say about BedStuy?
the nanny rant really does tell us there's a real need for this blog. i am not quite sure why she decided to share so much but it definitely stirred things up. i think the very issue of this nanny and her very low standards of service in order to secure a paycheck gets people emotional. i'm glad to know for real that there are these kind of nannies out there and that we should be on the lookout for them. parents need to know.
Hi Manhattanmama
Question, where is this Turkish restaurant your talking about? My husband is Turkish. So it would be nice to find a place to go to that we didnt' try yet.
Eric's Mom
Here is the link.
http://turkishcuisinenyc.com/
We first tried it when a friend who is also Turkish requested we have his birthday dinner there. It was great and we've been back several times since. Never had a bad meal. I hope you enjoy it!
Now that's more like it.
Reccomending cuisine and learning from and about the people on the blog. Yes.
Tattling and name calling. Nope.
Okay, so if 202 leaves- the drama ends. The double standard thing makes me think she is the OP of the nanny rant and the crybaby on the pee post.
Good riddance.
Tattling? On what, who?
What did I do now?
Mooooommm!
Wow totally agree - brilliant brilliant HONEST post.
The only thing more disturbing than the OP are the idiots who have hijacked this thread in order to vent their PMS-tantrums and personal grievances!
Shame on you all.
I just hafta say, I've been around this blog a long time, and this must be the winning thread!
I don't think ISYN has ever had this many posts on 1 thread!!!
Congratulations everyone! LOL
I'm a nanny, have been for 5 years. I often feel like I get burnt out after 6 months, and need to move on. I kept at it, thinking i will finally land my perfect family, and maybe i wont feel burnt out! Well, I found a family that has me wanting to stay longer than 6 months. Do I still get burnt out, depressed and over-worked? Yes. But i chose this line of work. It's not the kids fault their parents aren't what you want. If you're just a clock-watcher get a different line of work. Don't make the kids suffer. I am always out with the kids, and everyday we have something fun to do. Dance, play group, library, legoland, shopping, malls...Do i get stressed? yep. But i love them, and they get my undevided attention, they deserve it!!
Hi, I like cheese!!!
It's nice to hear from the other side. We have all these sites bashing people in childcare, we ought to create a blog titled " I saw your daycare parent acting like an ass." If she is so worn out by these employers, whose to say all people in childcare are not worn out? Maybe there should be more public information out there to teach these employers how to treat the people who care for their children! When we are all worn out and sick of putting up with them, who is going to be left to do the job? We are not all lazy, fat, evil, couch sitting, bon bon eating, unintelligent losers society makes us out to be! Because you are being hired as "help," that automatically makes you small and less of a person in the eyes of the employer and society itself. I've been in childcare for over 10 years, and I can say that the majority of my clients have treated me this way. With so little respect that you feel almost non-human! Do I treat their children any differently? NO! But they sure could make my days (and life) a lot easier by treating me with consideration and respect. Who wouldn't want that for the person caring for their children? If my son were being watched all day every day by someone, I would try to make them as happy as I could. Common sense I think! My whole point is, there is a whole other side to this "opinion" of childcare!
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