Monday

Starbucks in downtown White Plains, NY

Received Monday, November 26, 2007
I overheard your nanny at Starbucks discussing intimate details of your private life. She was speaking to a tannish, blondish mother who had her 5-6 yr old child home from school today. The conversation they were having in his presence was beyond the pale. Details of investigative tools you are using to keep track of your husband were discussed in detail. The two of them had a good chuckle at your expense. The nanny obviously takes care of school aged children as she had no children, but greeted the boy in Starbucks. What would make a nanny think she has the right to discuss an dissect the intimate details of her employer's life? Is nothing sacred. How humiliating. Nanny was white, on the tall side, about a size 10, wearing a black leather jacket and blue jeans with tan & brown mannish merrill "M" shoes.

27 comments:

Anonymous said...

mannish?

And aren't you just as terrible for listening to a conversation you weren't part of and then reporting it on a public blog? Is nothing sacred?

Sue Doe-Nim said...

Nothing like shooting the messenger.

Good post OP.

anonymous1 said...

It's wrong;it's rude; it's crude, but all too common. People gossip. They love to spread gossip and they love to get gossip.

Meme said...

Eveyone needs someone to vent or even gossip to. This is soooo no big deal.

yvonne said...

as a broker, my husband has things that are off limits. he could get in severe trouble if he violated, serious legal and lose his licence. to expect your nanny who is in your house to keep your secrets-unless you are beating your children- seems like a pretty relevant thingamajig. i mean, really people. really.

Anonymous said...

this post is a waste of time if every employee that ever said anything about their boss was fired then there would be no one working, you are the nosey one listening in.

Anonymous said...

The only way this post could be relevent is if there is a privacy clause and the Nanny broke it by running her mouth. But really, it would take alot for the Parents to find out it was specifically them she was talking about.
It may be rude and crass what she's doing, but worse things could be happening.

Anonymous said...

Of course this post in relevant!! First of all, it reminds everyone that nannies know your secrets, so be mindful of that. And second, if the employer recognizes the nanny from the description, she will know her secrets are out!

Anonymous said...

10:58
I agree there is a lesson to be learned here if nothing else. Employers should always be mindful of what skeletons they let out of their closet. But I doubt much will come out of this posting. The nanny will move on to the next Starbucks, still running her mouth.

Anonymous said...

What do you expect? Most nannies are losers in life who couldn't get a productive job, and couldn't even pass a background check to be a kindergarten teacher.

They are gossip mongers. Parents be careful.

sc mom said...

Nannies are gossip mongers, but so are sahms. Sahms are big time gossip mongers. And if you hire a nanny who cant pass a background check, you're the biggest ass in town.

Signed,
Mom with great nanny who passed a background check but let something slip once.

Anonymous said...

12:08
So .... did you have to give your nanny a raise??

sjb said...

STOP POSTING AS ANONYMOUS. Take .09 of a second and pick a moniker. any moniker. What is the point of joining in the conversation if we cannot distinguish you from another anonymous? Times are so passe.

A nanny should not be gossipping about the intimate details of her family's life. And an employer should not gossip about her nanny. It is a two way street.

The strangest thing I have read on this blog is the comment- from anonymous of course-about nannies being unable to pass background checks to become kindergarten teachers. Nannies absolutely should be able to pass background checks. My nanny has a degree in early childhood education. She interviewed for three teaching position in North Dakota, all for less than 35K per year before she came to NYC to work as a nanny. That was 4 years ago. She was wonderful but left us to work with a family that was able to offer her a six figure salary. We paid her well, but we couldn't offer that!

XYZ said...

Is this better? Geesh, get a grip. Nobody knows anybody on this blog anyway, it's just as easy to reply to a time as it is a moniker.

Anonymous said...

stfu sjb roflmao

Sue Doe-Nim said...

Here's why I think it's a good and relevant post.

If your nanny is talking about you at Starbucks she doesn't like you.

If your nanny doesn't like/respect you she shouldn't be in your home, your home is sacred.

As for all those Anonymous women who love to bash SAHMs... I'm having a lovely day, thank you very much, the latte was hot, I had a run with my friends. Now I'm off for a pleasurable day with another group of women. We surely won't be talking about you, you're off the radar... holed up in yer office thinking you're important.

Kissses!
Sue

P.S. There are some working Moms who I hold in very high regard but when they're at work they're not trolling the internet and stealing time from their employers.

Anonymous said...

Who's bashing SAHMs? They're just jealous.
My day went just as nicely, sue!

Anonymous said...

.... and my kids are in school right now, just in case you were wondering, folks.

Anonymous said...

11:57 AM
nannies "couldn't get a productive job" Are you saying caring for and nurturing children is not a productive job? I hope you aren't a parent!

Anonymous said...

op go wash your self and leave nannies alone your low life ass cannot do the job put your focus in having your own child

Anonymous said...

Once again, some people need to mind their own beezwax as we used to say and stop worrying about what other people's nannies are doing.

Anonymous said...

I DID sign a confidentiality clause when being hired by my current employers...it was part of the contract. I respect them regardless, and would never let any of their secrets slip (and yes, there are a few) nothing that endangers any one, so as I see it, no big deal.

If you are an employer and worried about a gossipy nanny include a privacy/confidentiality clause in your contract and let her now upfront if she's lose lipped she's canned. ;)

Otherwise, I think the person ease dropping on the gossip is far more pathetic than the gossiper...come on now, didn't you have any thing better to do with your time?

Anonymous said...

Correction: Let her KNOW, not "now"...think it's time for bed now. lol

kate said...

yet another anonymous anonymous anonymous,
you corrected know and now, and asked if OP had anything better to do with her time. I don't know OP, but let me introduce myself. My name is Kate, I live in Montclair, NJ and I teach ESL classes. Here is what I am going to do with three seconds of my spare time.

ease: freedom from difficulty or hardship or effor

eaves: the overhang at the lower edge of a roof

eaves + drop = eavesdrop

eavesdrop: listen in: listen without the speaker's knowledge

loose lips sink ships said...

Kate, you're very clever, lol.
But I do agree with 'anonymous/2:15s' advice: get a confidentiality clause. It will give everyone some peace of mind. Now, that said, sometimes a person that is privy to a conversation may not be doing it on purpose. So, that does not make them pathetic 2:15 ... only in the wrong place at the wrong time.

xyz said...

To those calling the OP pathetic, here's my take:
I'm sitting in a cafe, enjoying a great cup of coffee. Two people sitting at the table next to me start talking about some juicy gossip - and just because THEY can't mind their own beeswax by talking about OTHER peoples business, I'm supposed to get up out of my comfy chair and move?? Your outta your ever-loving mind!

mom said...

I have to agree with XYZ. And I would probably post it here too.
This site says "Report bad nannies." This is a bad nanny!