Received Saturday, November 10, 2007
I need some advice. I am a SAHM that Volunteers at my sons school a few days a week. I have come to know several kids in his class, one in particular, that my son is really fond of. He is 7 y.o. and an adorable kid. I met his mom only once. Here's my problem: A few days ago my son asked me, "why does Billy (not real name), have bruises on the back of his legs and on his back ?" I told him I didn't know why, and gently prodded for more info. The next day I came in to Volunteer, and 'Billy' was one of the kids I was supposed to work with. (I teach smaller groups of children that need a little extra help because they are behind the rest of the class). I was surprised at how open Billy was. He stated to me that he was hungry, and that the only time he gets to eat is in the school cafeteria, and that his mom never goes grocery shopping. Being a little shocked, I asked him, "what do you do on the weekends?", and he said, "sometimes she'll buy me a hamburger at McDonalds." I asked, "is that all you get to eat? You don't have any other food in your house?" He said, "no". He also told me he didn't have a Daddy. He seemed starved for affection, attention, not to mention food. I talked to his Teacher yesterday and mentioned that she had a kid in her class that might be having problems at home, but stopped short of telling her who. I don't know why. I'm sure most of you are probably going to tell me that I need to tell his Teacher, but I'm not sure how. It is hard because everyone there knows me and I don't want to cause trouble for me or my son. I am not completely sure he is being hit, but there is definitely something going on, if nothing else other than neglect. I wonder why this kid isn't eating. If it's because of financial reasons, there are all sorts of programs where I live that can help, so that shouldn't be an excuse. What should I do? And please don't flame me, I am trying to help this sweet kid.