I am in a situation and need some advice from parents. I have been a nanny for the same family for 3+ years (and plan on staying many more) taking care of two toddler girls. I love my family dearly and love the girls so much. I always show them love and give them hugs and kisses, and tell them I love them. I am committed to them as if they were my own children and would take a bullet for them if I had to. Recently the oldest who is 3, has been saying to her mom "I'm not yours, I'm nannies" and "I love nanny not you mommy" which usually she later turns to mom and professes her love for her mommy. I always regard my charges as "my girls" although always claiming to be their nanny to anyone who asks or compliments them. (I don't' take credit where its not due). Also, dad dad said something along the lines of "they are my children, not yours" but not in a bad way, just in a conversation that is to long to go on about here. I always acknowledge to the parents that they are the parents and I am just the nanny. But I feel that when these things are said, the parents are hurt. although they never say anything, I still feel the tension and am not sure how to react. Should I back off from showing affection to them and speaking about them as "my girls" or should I continue to show them the same amount of love? Advice from parents please, as I don't think other nannies could really tell me how the parents feel.
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