Received Thursday, July 12, 2007
Help! In the beginning of June, after much time of trying to work things out with our nanny of 16 months, we ended up firing her. She was unwilling to make the changed we needed to make and our job description had changed. We needed her to work different hours and travel with us. We ended up terminating her. We gave her 4 weeks of severance, even though she was only with us 16 months. The problem is our son is 2 years, eight months. He is reliant on others to help him make his friends. My husband and I work 50 hours a week. The nanny was responsible for finding him play dates and taking him to the park. The new nanny is great, but she and my son are being shunned by the nanny community that my son and the former nanny were previously a part of. They have been outright rude to her and completely ignore my son or on one occasion have said to him, "------- misses you lots" and then glared at the new nanny. This group of nannies is kind of a posse in our neighborhood and at the park nearest our house. Is the only solution for nanny to go to outlying parks? These were also children that our previous nanny had hosted and attended play dates with. Any idea how to make this right?
OP again here. (8:35) We attempted to keep the nanny on even though we needed to make changes due to my work. Previously I had work felxibility, but I took a job where I had to answer to someone else. This required that our nanny's day would be longer by an hour and a half. We also needed someone who would make dinner for our son (something I previously was able to be home to do). We offered her more money. However, the nanny told me that she was not a cook and that was not in the agreement and that it was too late for her to stay until 7:30. I don't know what she thought we would do. There is no doubt that she was great with our child and we enjoyed having her work for us when we did, but to say it ended amicably is not entirely correct.
Also, my nanny let it slip in things that she said that I should have just stayed at the same job and questioned why I needed to make a change. She was clearly resentful of the change even though we did our best by trying to keep her on, we were not about to hire an evening nanny for an hour and a half a night.