Tuesday

Roosevelt Field Mall in Long Island, NY

Received Tuesday, July 10, 2007
If you allowed your nanny to take your little girl to the Roosevelt Field Mall today, please ask her how she was treated by the nanny. The little girl had a cough/summer cold. The girl was between 6 and 8, Caucasian, very petite, almost frail with brown hair cut very blunt with bangs and faint freckles on her face. She was wearing a pink polo shirt with the Juicy crown and logo on it and white flip flops. I can't remember the bottoms. The nanny was dragging her. Literally dragging her by the hand because she would not walk faster. The child was walking plenty fast enough. The little girl was heard to say she was tired (cough, cough) and the nanny said in a shrill voice, "you're not tired when it's about you, are you". Or something like that. The nanny had on tight blue jeans, was about 5;'6" and 180 lbs and wore a shirt that had a bunch of color blocks on it. She also had dark hair pulled in to a very tight pony tail and a pretty face She was either African American/Puerto Rican . The little girl was walking with a Wendy's beverage and when she didn't hurry the nanny snatched it away from her and walked over and slammed it in to the garbage can. Maybe if the child was acting up, this could be understood but this child clearly appeared to be under the weather.

25 comments:

Anonymous said...

Another nanny brute who needs a good butt kickin'

Anonymous said...

If the child was sick why didn't the mother or father stay home that day and take care of her? But I agree the nanny was totally out of line.

Anonymous said...

Um, yeah, parents can't stay home every time their child has a cold. If she had a slight cough or runny nose there is no reason the parents shouldn't have left her with her nanny.

Anonymous said...

That is why parents have nannies. SO they don't loose their jobs when a child is home sick.

Idiot!

amy said...

Why are people on this site so nasty, name-calling and such? We should act like adults, not like the children we care for. (Or worse!)
I realize a parent cannot stay home every time a child has a cold: daycares do not exclude a child if they merely have a cold. But if a child is truly sick or has something serious, they should not leave the child with the nanny. A nanny is not a nurse. They are a childcare provider and should be respected.

Anonymous said...

amy,
I think you just don't get it.
How do you think people can call in sick because their children are home sick? Do you seriously think a nanny expects to have the day off when a child is sick? And if so, she would have to be paid. Sounds like a raw deal for the employer.

amy said...

3:21,
I don't think a nanny "expects" to have the day off if a child is sick. What I said was that if a child is seriously ill a parent should stay home with them. That is my opinion, like it or not. You don't have to agree, but it doesn't mean I don't "get it" or "get you" either: honestly, you don't sound all that complex.
And yes, if a child is ill and the parents take the day off to care for them, the nanny should of course be compensated, especially if she is on salary.

Anonymous said...

What do you consider seriously ill, Amy?

amy said...

3:31,
Hmm, let's see: I would think it would be when the child's pedi says "Your child is seriously ill."
Any more lame questions?

Anonymous said...

Amy, nobody said that this child was brought to the doctor and the doctor said "this child is seriously ill". If my child's pediatrician told me that, I'd be at the hospital! All the witness said was the child appeared to have a summer cold - not grounds for the parent to have to take off work and not entrust the child to the nanny - which is the nanny's job by the way - to care for the child. If the child is feeling under the weather, the nanny should NOT be taking her out on her little shopping sprees.

amy said...

5:14,
You have issues. I know the child in question was not seriously ill. If you read my original post that your rantings stemmed from, you will see that. I was originally responding to a comment, possibly yours, that said parents cannot miss work if their child is ill. This is the commentI was originally responding to:
"That is why parents have nannies. SO they don't loose their jobs when a child is home sick.

Idiot!"

My main point was that it is not "idiotic" to stay home with your child when they are too ill to attend school. Of course it depends on the severity of the illness: I was clear about that. I said very clearly that a cold is not a serious illness. But when you have small children and they are ill, it doesn't mean that you are an idiot if you want to stay home with them. It's called being a loving parent. Sometimes a child would rather have their mother if they are ill, even if it is just a severe stomach bug. And parents may not want to expose their nanny to a catching illness, depending on what it is.



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vi said...

Amy, you are still way off base.
It is summer time. Why would the child be in school?

As a parent, I would love to stay at home with my child everytime she has the slightest illness. Three times a year, I might be able to sneak out early so I can pick her up at school early. I loathe that my nanny gets to pick her up everyday and hear her gush with excitement over the day and all she has learned. It makes me feel terrible. We have a great nanny. She lives in and is paid on the books and we pay her health insurance. I am a single parent and I get no help from my ex for our two children, so I have no choice but to work.

My point is working parents make sacrifices. It doesn't mean we don't want to be there. The best thing we can do is find the very best nanny or childcare provider to take care of our children in our absence. My children are happy. Not much else matters to me.

Anonymous said...

8:32,
Sorry but I don't have much sympathy for you. If you were creative, you could find a way to be with your daughter. You probably don't want to move out of the area you live in to a more affordable area (even though you don't have family near) and you probably don't want to give up your high-paying job so that you can afford that area and all the other things you spend money on.
Why not move to a more affordable area and work from home? Do childcare in your own home, get certified to be a teacher, start a business from your home, so that you can pick up your daughter from school.
I am so disgusted with people who act like they do not have choices in life. You do have choices. If you can afford a nanny, you have alot more choices than many single moms out there, so don't complain. You "loathe" having your nanny pick up your daughter? That's pretty strong. It's not the same as you would rather do it yourself, you are saying you "LOATHE" it. Do something about it. Or shut up.

Anonymous said...

Hey anonymous who posted at 8:32, I LOATHE people like you. People don't always have choices in life. The kids are in school and she may not want to take them out of the district they are in. Schools play a big role in where people choose to live because some towns do not have good school districts. So why don't you shut up!

Anonymous said...

what about the nannie? shouldent she be told to stay home with the child??? not to go to the mall and be nasty to child when child does not feel wellllll....i feel so sad for this kid..

Anonymous said...

Yes, that was posted already - that the nanny should not be taking a child who is not feeling well out on her shopping sprees. This nanny has no business taking care of kids.

Anonymous said...

10:57,
Why don't you shut up yourself? You fail to see the undeniable truth in what I said. She does have a choice. She can take her kids out of their school district. As you said, "She may not WANT TO." Hello, is that not a choice?It is a choice. You always have choices in life. ALWAYS. You don't have choices about everything, but you do have a choice as to whether or not you stay home with your child. All this talk about "sacrifice." That's what it's all about. If you get certified to teach for instance, and teach in a private or Catholic school, your children can go for free. Life is full of choices.
So again, you are the one who needs to shut up. You're an idiot. I don't "loathe" people like you, I merely feel sorry for your parents that they raised a dumbass.

Anonymous said...

No need to feel sorry for my parents. They didn't raise a dumbass, as you put it. I make more money than you could ever imagine making in your entire life and I don't need to depend on anyone else to raise my children because I do it myself. You are the unfortunate one who has to judge people for "sacrificing" their children being watching by other people so they can work. Life is not always so easy and I realize that. You are so tiny-minded that you can't even see that there are circumstances that arise, and issues that come up that do interfere with the way we once saw our lives being lived. Unfortunately, life happens and people need to adjust. You are clearly not one of those people. Poor you. boo hoo :(

ble said...

Didn't parents know this child was sick? Why did they let the nanny take her out. They are just as much to blame.

Anonymous said...

11:35 Way to transfer your own feelings of inadequacy and guilt. You still can't admit that what I said was true: there are always choices in life.
Anyone who would make this comment:
"I make more money than you could ever imagine making in your entire life," either has serious issues or else is 12 years old.
You sure sound like a dumbass to me.

Anonymous said...

wow, this isn't about you guys posting and "yelling" at each other, it is about a child who was almost being abused by her nanny. By the nanny saying, "You're not tired when it is about you, are you?" makes me think the nanny wanted to do something for herself while she was on the clock and the girl was slowing her down. And in regards to some of the posts, it is just ridiculous when you critize someone and their living situation/working situation from a paragraph of a post when no one knows the full details of their lives. Maybe they do live out of the city, etc, we just don't know so to react so harshly is just not needed. Neither is, "I make more money..." which happens on here quite a bit and really is probably just so people can feelbetter about themselves but probably isn't needed.

Anonymous said...

I completely agree with the anonymous poster at 1:52.

Anonymous said...

You are right to say "it is just ridiculous when you critize someone and their living situation/working situation from a paragraph of a post when no one knows the full details of their lives." Clearly 11:18 can't see that and can't see that things come up and parents might have no choice but to stay in certain situations. 11:18 is stuck on the thought that these parents could just so easily stay home with the child when probably that isn't the case. The insults from 11:18 toward "I made more money..." seem to be in response to those insults, calling them a dumbass because they don't agree with their point of view is rather childish and stupid and isn't needed either.

Anonymous said...

After reading all these comments, I went back to the original post. What matters is not t hat the child nay have had a summer cold, but that the Nanny was treating this child very badly. Come on people

Anonymous said...

BRAAVO!! 152pm Holy crap. the original blogger just was giving a heads up. if it applies to you n it is your nanny you make the judgement on how you feel othewise dont blog on just to make weird accusations n judgements because you dont agree with someone's choice for their OWN life