I need some advice from all the parents, and nannies out there! The family I have been working with for over a year now, has recently expanded to include another child. Their 2 1/2 year old son is adjusting fairly well, but is having a few problems. I have tried a few times to casually mention these new problems, such as increasing violence, and a combative, pushy attitude. I have made a few suggestions on how to change these behaviors, as I am a child development student and have learned all about and dealt with this already. But, for whatever reason I don't seem to be getting through to them. My job is becoming increasingly hard, and I am becoming more and more dissatisfied daily.
I was just curious is there another way that you can think of for me to address my concerns with her, such as sitting her down? But, I fear she may become defensive like she has in the past. I always try to start out with all the amazing things about her son, and how much fun I have with him, and what I think she is doing a great job with, then move on to my concerns. Yet still, I think she feels attacked, or judged because the message just doesn't seem to be getting through to her. Or, is this a lost cause?
I would appreciate feedback from either parents, or nannies on how they have dealt with these situations. Thanks in advance for all your replies!
Update 07/23/07- This is the OP. So I am finally done with the family I was working for. Things just got to be too much for me to take, and when I told her I was leaving, she totally freaked out. Even felt the need to call me twice after I quit to tell me what a mistake I was making and how I am not fit to work with children. Now, if I was such a terrible nanny, why use me for over a year, and only tell me I'm unfit to work with children once I leave. Overall, I am happy with my choice to leave. Things weren't getting any better, and I need to put myself first! Thanks for all the support and suggestions.