Sunday

67th & 1st in NYC- Slaphappy

Received Sunday, May 27, 2007
Was anyone else at the Park on 67th. & 1st in NYC, yesterday Saturday (5/26)-mid day. There was a boy of about 4-5 playing alone on the equipment who began crying. A mother with her own children approached the child and asked if the child was okay. The child continued to cry. The mother asked if she could help that child find his mother and he nodded yes through his sobbing. The mother then finds this child's mother who is over by the basketball courts, facing away from the playground. When the mother sees her child coming with another mother, she immediately grows irate. The nice mother starts to explain that the child was crying or needed her or something along those lines when the child's mothers starts screaming at the nice mother and slaps her across the face. There was no way for the nice mother to holler out to the child's mother as she was too far away. I am curious what prompted the child's mother to slap the nice mother across the face and additionally, I am curious why the nice mother didn't do anything in response. She sort of sulked away. I realize the nice mother had a young child of her own, a daughter I believe but I found the whole scene shocking. Maybe I don't need to know if anyone else saw this unbelievable display; I just wanted to say, you did a really nice thing and I am sorry that it turned out so horrifically for you.

46 comments:

Anonymous said...

that is appalling. i have nothing else to say - my jaw is hanging open.

Anonymous said...

Wow- of all the sleeping and abusive nannies that are crying out to be slapped, some well intentioned mother gets slapped?

No freaking way!

sen said...

Bizarre. I have no clue what I'd do if some crazy mom slapped me across the face.

Anonymous said...

If I didn't have my kid with me ... I sure know what the hell I would do.

Anonymous said...

That poor little boy. Imagine how she must treat him.

Anonymous said...

I believe that qualifies as assault. The slappee could have called the police. The slapper would probably have been arrested, especially if there were witnesses at the scene.

Anonymous said...

foreign no doubt?

fg said...

who was foreign, the nice mom or the bitch mom?

Anonymous said...

What do you do when a boy of about 5 or 6 comes up to you at the park and tells you his mother (who is sitting nearby but paying absolutely no attention to him because she is telling a friend a story and every third word she utters is an obscenity) beats him up? And he points out places on his forehead and body where she hits him? He told another mother at the park the same story - who knows how many others he told...

Anonymous said...

Some people really don't deserve to have children.

Kelly said...

Unfortunately, no good deed goes unpunished. That useless excuse for a mother (the slapper) needs to learn to put her tail between her legs, and say 'thank you for helping my kid'.

Anonymous said...

That's so shocking and appalling! Unfortunately, some parents suck, just like some nannies! The fact that the bad mom slapped the other mother makes me wonder if she hits her own child. )= How sad!

To the person who asked what to do if a child is reporting abuse to you. Believe it or not but this actually happened to me a few years a go!! I asked the child's name and what school they went to. I then reported it to the police. I hope he got the help he needed (he had A LOT of bruises!) I'm not sure if there is any other way you can help, try and get a name and report the child to the police...you can always say what park he hangs out at and what he looks like etc. Children are too young to understand that not all adults are authority figures and often reach out to someone who looks "nice" as a desperate attempt for help... Always at least try to help, children are so defenseless!

Anonymous said...

If the slapper is foreign, she may qualify for deportation. If someone assults you (even slapping or hair pulling), call 911, and as soon as you are done with the police report, call immigration too and offer to send the district office a copy of the police report for their files. You never know when it may come in handy. Just don't tell the offender that you are in touch with immigration.

Anonymous said...

6:25PM, sounds like a case for the authorities. There is a big difference between a light frustration-free spanking, and beating the heck out of a kid.

jmt said...

The best defense is a good offense.

Anonymous said...

sometimes kids spill the beans

Anonymous said...

This is one of the "normal people" parks. What kind of Mom did this? Whatever happened to thank you? She wasn't even watching out for her own child.

Lucky you found the child and not one of those "ice cream men".

You know the ones.
They're not really allowed to work as ice cream men.

Anonymous said...

evidently a snooty, snotty bitch. Too bad nice mom was weak. If ever a mother deserved to have her ass kicked....

mommy said...

I'm just not clear on this part: the bad mom slapped the nice mom but the nice mom couldn't even yell out because she was "too far away" from the bad mom? Did the bad mom have 25 foot long arms or something?

Anonymous said...

The "nice" Mom had no choice but to take the child with her over to his mother because when she was sighted, she was out of earshot.
(And facing the opposite direction). So the "nice" mom walks the kid over there and the "other" mom totally goes off on her. That's how I heard it. Not OP by the way.

Anonymous said...

By "normal park," I assume that the 11:38 PM anonymous poster meant "frequented by white, upper middle-class people." The implication is, of course, that if this had taken place two miles north, in Harlem, no one would be surprised. You're a bunch of racists.

Anonymous said...

The bitch mom probably felt insulted when someone (the nice mom) indirectly pointed out her incompetence by bringing over her child and saving him from a potentiall gangerous situation. Something tells me she knows she is s terrible mom, and this incident just hit a nerve. Also that this is not the first time the boy has found himself alone.

Anonymous said...

the slapping incident took place on a weekend when parents are around. I am guessing it is a "normal" park because it is populated by genuinely nice people and hardworking parents and nannies during the week.

quit trumping the race card.

zzzzzzzzzzz

Anonymous said...

11:53 - don't get so upset. Unfortunately there is a lot of truth in stereotypes. The boy whose mother beats him, and was somplaining to everyone and showing bruises was black, as was his mother who was too busy to put him on the swings because she was chatting with her friend and using obscenities left and rigth - in park filled with children. A nice park. Yes, happens to be predominantly white. So sue everyone who notices a trend.

Kelly said...

The 'obscenity-yapping, abusive parent' thing is NOT a black thing. It is a Trash thing. Trash comes in all shapes, sizes, economic levels, and colors.

I have several black friends who also happen to be great parents and would never hurt their children physicall or verbally. In fact the nicest family in my building is black, and they have a great teenage son. Yes, a teenager who is actually worth praising.

The 'obscenity-yapping, abusive parent' thing is also NOT a socioeconomic thing. I have friends who live at the "projects" who are great parents, and whom I have never heard utter any four letter words.

The 'obscenity-yapping, abusive parent' thing is A TRASH THING.

Anonymous said...

so, are some parks predominantly black?

Anonymous said...

Kelly - great parents come in all colors, shapes and sizes. But statistics do speak to certain trends. Ignoring them may make us feel better about the world we are in - but it is also a form of denial, and it is very idealistic/naiive. If we cannot identify problem areas in our societies, then we have no hope of remediying them. The victims, ultimately are children. So we have to open our eyes.

Anonymous said...

To 3:56

If you are genuinely asking then here is an answer. If you are being sarcastic then you must not live in New York.

Here in NY at least, the answer is yes. It depends on the neighborhood. Upper East/West Side for example is more likely to be predominantly white than are Mornigside Heights and Spanish Harlem.

Anonymous said...

I do not live in NY and had no idea that parks were so lopsided with regard to the racial aspect. I am used to very big parks but not that many to choose from and people who frequent more than just one park so you get a diversified attendance for the most part. It also depends on what festival, what holiday or what events might be going on at the park, causing a possible influx of people from all around the entire city depending on their interest.

Anonymous said...

WHO CARES BLACK OR WHITE..MORE IMPORTEND LAUSY PARENT...POOR CHILD
I WOULD OF CALLED THE COPS ON THIS B....

Kelly said...

4:54PM, thanks for the feedback. I wasn't speaking for everyone when I was praising the great parents that I know. I agree with you that great parents come in all colors, shapes and sizes, as much as I believe that lowlife child-abusing trash also comes in all colors, shapes, and sizes, and needs to be cleaned up.

Anonymous said...

I am confused, the original post didn't mention the race of anyone. Why are we talking race here?

Anonymous said...

The stereotypical 'black people are abusive to their children' thing started with 1:50PM who said the following:


"11:53 - don't get so upset. Unfortunately there is a lot of truth in stereotypes. The boy whose mother beats him, and was somplaining to everyone and showing bruises was black, as was his mother who was too busy to put him on the swings because she was chatting with her friend and using obscenities left and rigth - in park filled with children. A nice park. Yes, happens to be predominantly white. So sue everyone who notices a trend."

Anonymous said...

If some beyotch slapped me, you bet I would call the police. If someone is deranged enough to slap a perfect stranger accross the face, what does that child go through? Of course, if I was slapped durring that time of the month, well, let's just say my husband would be getting a collect call for some bail money...

Anonymous said...

Pointing out whether someone was black or white is not racism people. Get over the chip on your shoulders. Its like saying someone had a big nose, or wore their hair in a mohawk. And yes, sociologists and OPRAH talk in termsof black culture etc. THERE IS SUCH A THING!! Or do you dare disagree with Oprah herself??

Anonymous said...

10:54

If stereotypes are wrong then why are there somany more black baby daddies than white ones?? Come back from la la land. There are aspects of black culture that CAN improve. Listen to Bill Cosby. He is wiser than you.

Anonymous said...

Yeah, im not believing this story......

Anonymous said...

How is it so hard to believe? I have heard the account on two other parent boards in NYC, btw.
I wasn't there, but if someone wanted to make something up, why wouldn't they make it a little more interesting? It wouldn't be hard. It's NYC.

Anonymous said...

I have come across a lot of stereotypes. IF there is "some truth to stereotypes" are the following statements correct?
-Black people are abusive to their children
-White people smoke marijuana, and know how to make meth.
-Asian people eat their pet dogs
-Black people are better in bed than white people
-All Korean immigrants are manicurists
-Hispanics don't take life seriously
-People from the Caribbean make abusive nurses
-The best nurses come from the Phillippines
-Nigerians are always after your money
-African children are more appreciative than American children.
-Australians are alcoholics

Anonymous said...

1:32 - while I am sure your post is meant to be sarcastic, it it sadly true. Not 100% of course, but pretty much. Don't kid yourself. Be a grown up and own up to your role in the world in which we live. ACTUAL world. Not some ideal one.

Anonymous said...

9:33AM
Do you base your findings on checkable sociological studies? help us out with some links...

Anonymous said...

9:33AM, Are you saying that I AM BEING CHILDISH for asking if those statements are true? I am only asking for feedback from actual experts, NOT BIGOTS like you. Sincerely, 1:32AM.

Anonymous said...

9:33AM:
I agree with 11:35AM. Please enlighten us on your findings.

Anonymous said...

You people seem a bit angry...New Yorkers??

jmt said...

Every time I reread this post I am amazed that some stranger slapped a nice lady and the police weren't called.

mollywobbles said...

I would've held up my phone as if recording and then told her I'm taking this to the police even if your phone doesn't record. It would've changed things completely.