Wednesday

Mathews Beach Park In Seattle, WA

Received Wednesday, April 18, 2007
Your nanny. Sitting on the slide wearing an over sized blue nylon rain slicker. Little girl with her in yellow & pink rain coat. Little girl was likely 2 or just under. Curly, Blondy hair. The weather was wet. The child was sitting on the nanny's lap and the nanny was sitting on the bottom of the slide. The nanny was crying, somewhat hysterically. I asked her if she was okay and she said she was. The little girl looked at her face and kissed her cheek three times. I am not saying she is a bad nanny, I just felt so terrible for her. This was yesterday (Tues) at about 2:30 PM. Nanny had dark, straight hair with chunky blonder highlights. Nanny was nearly inconsolable. I don't pretend to know what the situation was. The park was dead. I just imagine this nanny needed a personal day or something. If you have a good nanny, treasure her. Don't let her suffer. This nanny was clearly suffering. If you don't think of your nanny, think of your little girl who was clearly upset and almost felt responsible for the adult nanny.

32 comments:

jj said...

ohhhh. sad.

Anonymous said...

Maybe the Nanny had a family emergency or tragedy. I don't know why she didn't ask for the day off if that's the case.

Anonymous said...

I feel for the nanny: I have cried at work too and it must have been something bad. Poor nanny and child!

Anonymous said...

How sad! I hope everything ended up being alright... :(

Anonymous said...

I hope the nanny is ok. How sweet of the little girl to try to console her.

Anonymous said...

how do we know that this was not the mother?

Anonymous said...

619-
How do we know you are not the same person who always asks, "how do we know it isn't the mother?"

Anonymous said...

As a nanny I cried once at work as well, in a job I have since quit. I tried so hard to not cry in front of the children, but their mother said the most hurtful, demeaning things to me that I could not help it. I hope this is not this nanny's case. The children knew I was crying b/c of their mother being horrible to me, which made me feel bad as well, since I know that must be a hard angle for the children to live in.

Anonymous said...

I feel sorry for anyone who is hurt enough to cry, but at the same time, I don't know how appropriate it is to bawl in front of a young child. I hope she gave the parents a heads up / opportunity to allow her some time off. Even in extreme times (and believe me, the past year has been majorly difficult) I have not cried in front of my children because I don't want to upset them. Not at this tender age when they are unable to fully understand what the deal is.

123-456 said...

743,
I worked for someone who at one time or another reduced every nanny and child to hysterical sobbing.


And alas, when the last tear was shed and their self esteem obliterated; this woman would exhale in the most ear piercing cackle and smile in smug complacency.

Anonymous said...

Its safe to say we have no idea why the nanny is crying - all we know is she was quite distraught. I hope she is ok.

Anonymous said...

Crazy. If you have problems you need to refrain from bringing them to work-office...nanny....problems don't belong there. If you have to take the day off and even though it may be hard you don't want the children to see you upset you must try and be strong for them/in front of them they feed off of your feelings...that little girl had to console the nanny which she should not have had to do..hopefully the nanny took the child home and was then able to go home herself

jmt said...

Poor woman. *Mental hug*

A Nanny with a Heart said...

For all you know this poor woman just got a phone call and found out that one of her friends or family members was one of the victims at Virginia Tech this week. Maybe she had not had the chance to call her employer and say she needed the day off.

I was at work when I got word that a friend of mine had been killed in Iraq. It took me a few minutes to get myself together, but once I did I let my employer know and things were handled.

Sometimes you people can be such snobs and so selfish! Have a heart people!

Anonymous said...

Was mean mommy by any chance in Upper Saddle River????

Anonymous said...

For those criticizing the nanny for crying, geezz, a little compassion.
We don't know the situation. She may have just received a phone call that her mother died. There is nothing wrong with a child seeing that adults cry when they are sad, just like they do. It's human.

Anonymous said...

It's ridiculous to assume that the nanny could have just 'asked for time off'. My former employer would have laughed in my face and denied me if I'd asked for time off on less than a month's notice for ANY reason, because her precious work and social life had to go on. Often times the nanny is given NO regard and must function like a Mary Poppins-like automaton. I do agree with the 11:54 poster. It's not the end of the world for a child to see an adult crying. The little girl seemed to be sweet about it. I hope the nanny bucked up eventually and gave her a big hug and a kiss back for being such a sweet little 'caretaker'. That can be just as positive a lesson for her, to learn how to comfort others. It makes people feel good about themselves to be able to make others feel good.

Anonymous said...

...12:13 don't you love it though if they asked you to stay a bit later or come in early you would try and make it but anytime which is RARELY you ask to get off an hour early they act like you just asked them for a month off paid...there is nothing wrong with that nanny expressingn herself and i hope that whatever was wrong today is a bit better and that she has family and friends near to help her...

Anonymous said...

I agree that it is good for children to see that adults have feelings and it is okay to cry. I also agree that it is okay to argue in front of your children from time to time so they can learn that it is okay to not always be happy and agree with everyone else.

Anonymous said...

11:24:

I agree with you, but preferably one should not argue or bawl in front of a 2 year old.

I think kids should learn as much as possible about every aspect of life, but some things can wait.

Lorenza said...

Sometimes it's just best to give one the benefit of the doubt and in this case, my heart goes out to the nanny who was in such pain and distress, but yet, clearly loved by her charge.

Anonymous said...

Sometimes we just need to put our foot in another person's shoes. I was working as a nanny a few years ago when I received a phone call saying that my dad had died. It was so hard to remain composed because apart from his death, I was miles away from home.

Anonymous said...

I think we need to give this nanny a break. We really don't know the circumstances as to why she was crying. We only know that her little charged cares about her - and tried to console her. That speaks volumes about their relationship.

Anonymous said...

ooooooooh, I do hope the nanny is ok

sprak said...

I hope that nannies who read this blog realize that the nannies are cared about, too!

Anonymous said...

5:15
Yes, the sympathy for the nanny expressed by most of the posters is heartening. Sometimes the contempt for nannies as a group expressed on this site makes me wonder if I should look into another field when my current job ends.
A Nanny

sprak said...

We too often group people in the same categories undeservedly. If I have expressed contempt for nannies when posting, it would be for any nannies exhibiting the same behavior as the one being posted about. Obviously, there are some wonderful, caring nannies out there. I even know some!

Anonymous said...

awww poor nanny. The little girl kissing her on the cheek is so sweet. Obviously she gets good care and is worried about her crying nanny.

I find it hilarious that people on here are mad at the nanny for crying in front of the child. Crying is a normal emotion and there is nothing wrong with doing it in front of a child for crying out loud. Cussing and screaming is another thing but shedding a tear never hurt anyone.

Anonymous said...

8:43 I know what you mean. It's disgusting to see the moms complaining and putting nannies down so much on this website yet they STILL need someone to come and take care of THEIR kids. I wonder if they grin in their nanny's face everyday pretending to care. I'm sure they don't have the guts to make their real feelings known offline. Just know all moms aren't like that and there are some who actually care about their nanny and their feelings so don't let it discourage you.

Anonymous said...

a real soft hearted bunch here

Anonymous said...

Wow I can't believe the way some people treat or talk about other people...especially people who are taking care of their children...I commend the original poster in this thread for showing concern for this girl...regardless of what some people think the "help" has feelings and lives other than work and as stated several times above noone knows what was going on with this girl...lay off.

Anonymous said...

We take care of your kids every day, 10 hours a day. We love them as our own, hug, kiss and play with them.. Dry their tears, kiss their boo boos., clean poop, spit and puke. We are their moms. They cry when we leave, squeal when we arrive. They listen to us and respect us. We do fun things with them everyday, make everyday an adventure, cook and clean for them, dress and take them on daily outings. Why are we then talked about so coldly, demeaningly, nastily,called nasty names, spied on. We are human as well, we hurt, cry, laugh, feel pain just like you do. We have families, husbands, kids, homes to go home to (albeit we spend less time there) Yet we are talked down to, sneered at, belittled. We cant understand why.We feign ignorance, we try to understand, we teach your kids not to hate, be prejudiced, be loving and kind to others, yet the family dog is treated with more respect than us. We are underpaid, laughed at, we have education, and we try our best, yet nothing seems to change. Each day just seems a little bit longer. Still we continue to love the children, because they are not to blame, children learn what they are taught