Friday, March 23, 2007
For reasons unknown, an individual concocted damaging allegations regarding an incident that was asserted to have occurred at the CVS drugstore in Summit, New Jersey. No such event transpired. The factual details of this incident have been corroborated by the involved parties. The post which originally appeared on the ISYN blog on 3/17/07 was fictitious and has been deleted from the blog.
As stated in our disclaimer, I Saw Your Nanny does not investigate, arbitrate or endorse any posting made in this forum. We are wholly reliant on people to be acting in good faith when submitting postings to this blog.
22 comments:
wow.thats messed up.whats wrong with some people?
someone is off their meds, maybe.
Maybe someone wanted nanny's job?
Nanny had an enemy?
Either way, it is totally f--d up.
Reminds me of the whole cry wolf story. When people talk about children being neglected or abused, we want everyone to sit up and pay attention. People like this zealot do great harm!
why? that's what I want to know. why?
This so reminds me of something the woman I used to nanny for would do.
She is one of those people who you would never suspect: a doctor, seemingly a nice person. In actuality she is a snake who is a compulsive liar. And since she considers herself a "professional" she doesn't think that normal rules of ethics apply to her, that she can do whatever she wants to people and not be touched since she is better than a "mere nanny."
I hope the person who posted got in big trouble.
So....how can we be sure any of the other reports are real?
well there is no team of trained investigators dispensed to the scene. Most people don't have the time on their hands to go around submitting false complaints. Right?
I used to live a block from the Pierrpoint Playground and can say for certain that is so inline with what I saw there.
Hopefully, false reports will be caught just as this one was. Even police departments get false reports and fire departments, false alarms. This does not negate the good. It does prove, however, that there really are evil people out there up to no good. Some of these, as we have seen, are nannies.
False reports suck.
Sorry to see that happen but impressed that you didn't try to hide the event, but dealt with it straight out. In bold type, then yet.
Kudos from the beach,
M
This is outrageous!How many times do we have to read things like this?
"Interviews and a review of court documents by The Associated Press make it clear that many of those who were supposed to protect Rebecca — teachers, social workers, other professionals — suspected something was wrong, but never went quite far enough"
We want people to get involved.
We need people to get involved!
Please read the disturbing story of a child who needed help & was not helped below. Look around. Don't be silent!
http://www.msnbc.msn.com/id/17758170/
J,
very, very sad article.
and true-
people need to get involved.
if you know a child in a situation that doesn't seem quite right, grow a pair and DO SOMETHING!
Thank you for posting this. This is a good reson for employers to not take this site too seriously and talk to a nanny that is reported on this site before making any decisions. Good for the webmaster for taking down the post!
I am just thankful that the post was false, HOWEVER, I am very dissapointed by the number of people who said "she didn't leave the baby ALONE." Yes, if it were true, the baby would have been alone, with a stranger not approved of by the parents. So sad how many would not have called the police. While I am relieved by the fact that this did not happen, I am saddened by human nature.
Not to beat a dead horse, but in the original post- the baby was never left alone. Leaving someone with a stranger is much different than leaving a child alone! I am not defending leaving a child ever with anyone that the parent has not authorized you to leave the child with, just stating a fact that THAT IS NOT ALONE.
I work in an upscale clothing boutique. I have beautiful children coming in with their parents everyday. Every so often (atleast twice a week), I have some pathetic excuse for a mother who responds to my complimenting her child with a "yah you want him" or "how about you take her for a week". These mothers say these things as easily in front of their 8 year olds as they do their 8 week olds. On more than one occassion, I have been asked to watch a baby by a parent. A parent I don't know. The people who shop at this store are more wealthy than most so they see me as yet another tool in their life. "Oh would you mind just watching her for a bit while I run across to the bank". My answer is, "I would love to, I just don't feel comfortable". Usually, the parent then reassures me it will be fine to which I say, "No, I'm sorry, I just can't". Usually people huff off from the store after that. Twice people have even complained to my boss about my rudeness.Rudeness? I can tell you one thing, the mothers who send their nannies in with their children to buy the clothes are pretty near flawless. They smile, are kind to me, dote on the kids and are excited to be shopping with the child. Believe it or not, I see moms come in here with their tween daughters and they say "you have 5 minutes and the clock is counting". They don't care about the money, just the time. I remember going shopping with my mom was a special treat for me. I wish I could say the name of the store I work at. All I know is if you put a nanny patrol inside our store, you would catch really good nannies everyday! Two weeks ago, I had a mother in here and when one of her daughters tried on a pink shirt she loved, the mother told her point blank, "not your color-brings out the ugly in your eyes". I know the "mom" (using the word loosely) thought I would think that was funny. The little girl didn't think it was funny. The other mother in the store stared at me in horror. The mother thought she was a real hoot. I think my original point was that it pisses me off when people think that they can ask me to watch their child. Nevermind I have a job I am already doing, what about the liability? Some of these mothers obviously grew up having everything handed to them and fixed for them. They take mighty strange risks with their children, but strangely enough-not with their temporary lashes or double processed roots.
1204, it is alone. Alone with a stranger. NOT that the story is true, but if that situation arose, the baby may as well have been left "alone" on the sidewalk.
"Left" with a stranger who could have just walked off with the baby =dumb!
Just think about it. If a baby were left unatteded, a "stranger" who observes this could easily just walk up and take the baby. In the idiodic, pretend post, the make-believe nanny saved a step for a baby napper.
God help any nanny who finds herself in a situation like that. Or stupid moms who are unattentive like that. My SIL works retail, and has seen infants left unatteded for over thirty minutes. A baby was left in a carseat in a cart, and when asked, her manager told her to WAIT a half hour before calling the police! Dumb. Well, mommy came back in time and just said, "oh, there you are" all calm like. Bitch. Doesn't deserve children.
I think it's all about rationalization. The last woman I nannied for cared much more about her job than her child. She used to tell me that when she went to the store she would "only go about two isles away from the stroller: no further than that." I thought that was crazy: her child, in my care, was never out of my grasp, let alone my sight! And even stranger, (to me, at least) once when I needed to go to a doctor's appointment five minutes away and wouldn't have been gone for more than an hour, I asked her if it would be alright if my husband, who she had told me she loved and who has a clean background check from his job which requires it, and is also a Dad himself, to our child, could watch her child while I went to the doctor. Her response: "no, because I just don't trust any man with my child because in most cases the child molestor is the babysitter's boyfriend." (I was a nanny by the way with a husband, not a boyfriend, not that that matters.) Of course it's her child and her choice, but all she had to say was no! I of course told her that was fine, but I was insulted as was my husband. Here is a woman who would rather leave her child alone in a store than with my husband who has never even had a parking ticket.
Go figure: people are really hard to figure out sometimes.
I don't blame her for not wanting to leave her child with your husband. She didn't have to give the reason, though. Who knows why she feels this way? I know why I feel the same way, however.
838,i give you credit for atleast letting your employer know what you had in mind. don't take it personally, it doesn't have anything to do with your husband. I have known my nanny's husband for 5 years, he's a great guy & I would trust him with my home or my children but he isn't the kind of guy that would offer himself up for sitting. It doesn't feel right on his part. It has nothing to do with my kids.
The problem is nannies who leave the children they are solely responsible for in the care of people not known to their employer or not authorized. I know this happens because I found out years ago that one of my first nannies who traveled with a pack of Mormon nannies had some sort of "deal" going where they would get together for playdates with friends and on a rotating basis one of them would stay and host the playdate while the others went shopping at the mall or did fundraising or some such. I nipped that in the bud pretty quickly.
RE: original posting
Something smells fishy in Denmark
I was so outraged by the CVS post. I can't believe it was a fake. Then again, this happens at police stations too. Newspapers have to deal with it. That poor janitor that was wrongly accused of raping an 8 year old? How can they ever make things right for him? And his family????
To 3:59 and 5:40,
I understand your point, and why she had the right to say no.
However this woman was rude and disrespectful in the way she spoke to me.
On the same token, I would never have let her or her husband take care of my child- not because I think they are child molesters but because they are incompetant fools and bad parents. I would not however have said that to them point blank!
I just hate how some people who employ nannies and people in general are rude. Like I said originally, all she had to say was no!
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