I have three children, the youngest is 15 months. I have been a working mother always, taking between 5-9 weeks off for maternity for each child. I have always used nannies. Our current nanny came to use when my youngest was just four months. My youngest has started calling her Mama. I understand the confusion, and it would normally only induce the appropriate mom guilt. The nanny doesn't correct the child and in fact seems to enjoy this confusion. This has me seething. Am I totally wrong? If someone else's child called me mom, I would gently correct them by stating my name. I don't see how that would be harmful. When I brought this to Nanny's attention, the nanny said, "His needs are being met by me, it's normal". I feel that was a slap in the face and a dig and still didn't address what I think is basic nanny/child minder etiquette and that is to help the child learn your name. I don't think she understood my offense to it, because she even joked, "if I start to answer to it, than you should be worried". This is my third child. I've had nannies before. I don't think I am too sensitive. I think she is so inappropriate that I am beginning to question her judgement. And that is the question I put to you all? Your thoughts?
