To Nap or Not to Nap... That is the question!
MB and I were in the kitchen after I'd put the kids down for their nap. We chatted as she prepared to leave and run errands, and in the middle of a sentence, I smothered a yawn. "Sorry," I chuckled, "I'm not quite awake yet today." (It was an overcast Monday with no sunshine, which wasn't helping, and I'd worked most of the weekend.) "Go take a nap," she urged, pausing on her way out the door. "You know you're always welcome to nap when the kids do. The kids always sleep well for you, and the baby monitor is on. The bed in the guest room is really comfortable!" I thanked her and assured her I was fine, and she repeated the offer once more before leaving. I really was fine that day, but I'd taken her up on the offer many, many times before (though usually I just nap on the couch, not the guest room lol!). It was an offer she made within days of hiring me, and had repeated on many occasions in the two years since then. She'd asked if I was a light sleeper (I was) and said that she was often so tired from caring for the kids that she napped with them, and didn't care if I did as well. My previous nanny family also had the same attitude, and had made the same offer. I was working fewer hours (and only had one charge instead of three!) so I rarely did, but I knew it was available to me. If it hadn't been offered, I never would have considered it. Same with my current family. I have a great relationship with them - we're close, and I've stuck with them through quite a few crises and rough times - and I help out a lot with the housekeeping (laundry, cleaning, etc) which is not part of my work agreement (and no, in two years there has been no job creep - these are genuinely great people to work for). I've seen people respond to the mere mention of a napping nanny with disbelief ("I don't care what you say, I don't believe that any parent would be okay with that!") or righteous indignation ("I would never, EVER nap on the job!"). While I COMPLETELY agree that this shouldn't be an option unless it's been explicitly ok-ed by the parents, I'm curious - how many nannies out there admit to catching a nap with the kids? Any parents who have offered this to their nanny (or would be appalled by the thought lol)?
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