Hello everyone I am very sad , depressed and not happy at all. I REALLY NEED HELP with my case. I was hired for a family on 2014 (January ) to take care of an awesome 3 year old and be her nanny. When they interview me ( restaurant ), they seemed very nice people and gave me the job right away and offer me $1000 dollars weekly on the books for 60 hours (700 cash). Of course, I was so happy thinking this will be the job I will stay forever but after 1 year and half I CAN NOT STAND IT AND WANT TO QUIT. As I mentioned, PARENTS seemed nice but with the time, they became very bad and mean people.
Many little things happened and want to explain all of them so all of you can help me because I really need it.
-Mom told me one day THERE IS FOOD WE COOKED , BABY CAN HAVE IT AND U CAN HELP YOURSELF and Dad said : BABY ONLY CAN HAVE IT :(
- Dad told me : MY WIFE ONLY DECIDED TO HIRE YOU . I ASKED what about you? he said : it was her decision NOt mine :(
-THEY(mom and dad) DON'T SAY GOOD MORNING, HELLO, THANKS, PLEASE etc. I have to be the one always saying hello and most of the time THEY IGNORE ME:
-THEY NEVER talk to me about what will happens for example if they will come early , or next day they won't work. They only talk to the baby and said : no worry baby I will come early today or your uncle will visit you. I Know what will happen during the day ONLY BECAUSE they talked to the baby NOT TO ME :(
-Dad used to make me drive him every day to the bus stop also , pick him up and I had to rush what was I doing (bathing baby or feeding ) to get him because he used to request me to pick him up in like 15 minutes :(
- THEY have cameras everywhere around,outside ,inside the house and when I told them I felt uncomfortable with it because I have never worked with it, they said : too bad we won't take it out and they put even MORE CAMERAS without telling me :(
- They have a GPS in the car and follow me everywhere :(
- One day I woke up with fever but decided to go to work so I wouldn't get in trouble. In the afternoon, I TEXTED mom POLITELY asking if was possible to leave early because I had 104 of fever and she got really mad and texted me really bad and hurting words. She got home and screamed at me saying : WHY I Went to work if I WOKE UP SICK, I explained and said didn't want to cause a trouble that's why I came to work and SHE only said : HOPE BABY DIDN'T GET SICK BECAUSE OF you. The "funny " part is that one night before I TOLD MOM that I started having fever and didn't feel good. She ignored me and went to talk to baby :(
- One day, I prepared some Colombian food for baby and me ( they allow me to use kitchen) and had some left over so I storage it in a glass container (theirs). I received a text at 11:30 PM asking me what was "that" I explained nicely that was my food and was told : NEXT TIME USE THE CONTAINERS THAT WERE ON THE RECYCLING bag:(
-They don't respect my TIME OFF they can text me any time at night or weekend to ask silly things like : were is the blue ball, were are baby's shoes ( baby has more than 10 pairs ) , were is the monitor( they have 10 cameras), were are baby diaper, who is in the picture that you sent us in the afternoon etc and HONESTLY I AM VERY TIRED OF IT because after 12 hours of working I REALLY NEED TO REST AND SPEND TIME WITH MY FAMILY. If will be an emergency , will be ok with me :(
- I went to swim with baby to the lake and when we came back I put everything in the washer and because it was late AND I had to leave, and I thought that next day I will put it on the dryer. My surprise was that all CLOTHES( baby clothes, towels) WERE ALREADY IN THE DYER and OF COURSE DRY and my bathing suit was all wet on top of the washer machine smelling bad because of been wet all night . Could be just a silly thing but IT HURT ME :(
- When I decide to talk about baby bad behavior, dad walks away and let me talking to myself I really think is very DISRESPECTFUL. Because it happened many times, I decided NOT TO LET THEM KNOW when baby has a bad behavior because I know they will ignore me or get mad and said that I am wrong and their child is one of the perfect kids on the earth so since that day on I ONLY SAY: Baby did very good today even thought it;s a lie.
- In my contract says that I only need to take care of baby but when I started, I ofer to but baby's food when there is none at home, NOWADAYS, They only do shopping for them not even MILK for baby they wait for MONDAYS and tell me to buy it even though they went to the store during the weekend.
- They only empty the dishwasher with all what they use. They don't put away baby things either cups or plates I use. When I do empty the dishwasher, I EMPTY EVERYTHING.
-Probably, you will ask IF they HAVE done any positive thing to you : YES, PAID ME ON TIME, gave me some presents for Christmas and my bonus.
- These are only some of the " little things" that I can write because If i will write all of them i will take forever . Some of my friends told me to quit but other says to be strong and just do it for money. Even though I only see them for 1 hour per day, I FEEL THEY MAKE MY LIFE VERY MISERABLE.
** Maybe many of you think that I should talk to them WELL, I DID. I spoke with her first and explain how I feel I even cry and what I gOt for an answer : I DON'T SEE IN ANY PART THAT WE DISRESPECTFUL YOU. After that,MOM, DAD AND ME had a " meeting " and I was told that they walk away from me because THEY DONT WANT TO HEAR ME , THEY DONT CARE WHAT I HAVE TO SAY AND , BECAUSE I " COMPLAINT A LOT " If I wasnt happy with the job I SHOULD LEAVE , I only said : I AM VERY HAPPY WITH BABY :(
Money in this case is not the problem because the only good thing is that I GET always paid on time and not have any complain with it. The only issue are the parents which HONESTLY I am tired of all what they do to me .
I love the baby SO MUCH , AND also need the money. DONT KNOW WHAT TO DO :( should I stay and just stand everything or LEAVE AND BE HAPPY.
PLEASE HELP ME I NEED IT.