Probably a Size 16

My nanny and I took the children to see a children's movie on Monday.

After about 1/2 hour, my daughter said she needed to use the bathroom. I sprang into action, since I usually am at work, I was ready to be hands on. The nanny said, "No, I got it" and took my daughter. They were gone almost a whole ten minutes, which seemed long.

When my daughter came back and climbed in her seat next to me, I said, "All good" and she smiled. I said, "I would have taken you." and she said, "Millie has to throw up anyway.".

We were during a movie, so I let it go, thinking I miss heard her. We were in the middle of a movie.

Last night, I made popcorn for the kids and put on a movie because I had to work and needed them to be occupied. I set them up in the family room which is off of my office. After a few minutes, my son interrupted me saying that my daughter was "hogging up the popcorn.".

I went in there to resolve the situation and noticed that most of the popcorn was gone. I was shocked, because, my daughter is 5. I said, "did you spill that?" She said "No, I ate it fast". I went to make another bag of popcorn when I heard my daughter add to my son, "Millie says throwing up popcorn feels the best and after that hot eggs.".

Long, long story short. I sat down and talked to my daughter and the nanny has not only been eating and throwing up, but sharing some of this information with my five year old. Like, "popcorn has nutrition anyway, your body doesn't need it" and "I didn't mean to throw up eggs, but they come up easy."

Please don't weep for this 26 year old, VERY healthy, BIG BONED (probably a size 16) nanny. I am outraged that my children were exposed to this. I texted her last night to let her know I was taking the day off. Is there any reason at all I should let her return to work? I have not said word one to the nanny yet, but really don't see where there would be any point!

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Anonymous said...

It's terrible, terrible, terrible that she's sharing these things with your children. However, one line of your post made me cringe for you and think much less of you as a person: "Please don't weep for this 26 year old, VERY healthy, BIG BONED (probably a size 16) nanny."

She's obviously NOT healthy. She has bulimia, and most bulimics are of average weight or even overweight. She certainly does deserve sympathy too, although I'd fire her anyway.

Anonymous said...

I'm a nanny. I'm also a recovering bulimic, and I tend to throw up a lot because I did my digestive system such injustice and now I get sick to my stomach after eating. I would NEVER share my issues with my charges and I'm appalled at the damage this nanny has already done to your child. Eating disorders often start young. Dismiss the nanny and take your child to therapy so she doesn't see bulimia as a viable alternative when she gets older and kids begin to make fun of her.

Anonymous said...

ALSO, when she gets older and realizesthat Her mommy has a thing against "fat people," which you obviously display in your post. I'm kind of appalled that you don't see the nanny as having a problem we should feel bad for. I actually gained weight being bulimic, and it was a harder addiction to kick then prescription opiates. So yeah, screw you lady and stop using that language.

Kara Ivy said...

I can't believe that you are even considering letting her return to work. I find it very odd that you would even ask us if there is any reason if you should. Do you seriously not know that you should have fired her yesterday??? If she was main lining heroine in front of your daughter and to boot also giving her tips on how to do it would you still be considering if there was any reason to keep her? This is in no way any different.

NYnanny said...

Kara Ivy, doing heroine in front of kids is in no way different than this situation? ! Ahaha I'd have to disagree with you on that one. Seriously? A tad dramatic. This situation is definitely unacceptable, worth getting very upset over, and an immediate fireable offense. But heroine use in front of children would go wayyyy beyond that.

Elizabeth Hansen said...

Being a "plus-sized" (size 16) nanny myself, I am offended by the words this professional parent has used to describe another person. Being overweight is something that is constantly something on my mind. Do I think that the nanny should be reprimanded for her actions... ABSOLUTELY! We are hired to teach by example. I am constantly talking to my 3 yr old charge about the benefits of eating healthy (ps... she is a super picky eater and would eat string cheese and donuts for every meal if her parents and I would let her). We talk about how fruits and veggies are healthy snacks and they give our bodies energy. No way would it be acceptable for me to talk about my lack of confidence or my body image in front of my nanny kiddo.

I agree that this parent needs to take action with this nanny. But please, remember, she is a person too... one that has been welcomed into a family; and she is obviously dealing with some pretty heavy personal stuff. If you are going to let her go, set up a meeting with her outside of the house and talk to her about your concerns and your decision. This will not be an easy discussion, but the parent needs to be respectful. Body shaming in any sense is never ok, as you are not teaching your daughter respect for others. Be a grown up, Be professional, and be considerate.