The father has a grander place, so she is a more permanent room there, more comfortable and spacious, so she lives there predominately when not working. I have never met these people, but I have researched them online and they seem like respectable people.
My problem is in the letters and emails my daughter has been sending home. It was apparent near immediately that she found the father attractive and may have had a crush on him. Over the past month, the way that she talks about him and the children doesn't sound like a job at all. It sounds like she is his wife. My daughter is lovely and kind, but?
I don't know if this is infatuation. I also don't know if the father is encouraging in on some level.It is not that I don't think he would be interested in her, but I fear she could be being exploited to get more labor out of her. She says herself as taking care of him. When the kids are not there, she starts coffee for him, on weekends she says she goes to get him a bagel, or will pack a lunch for him to take to the office. My daughter's history is not so great in this area. I am afraid she could be getting carried away in a way that reminds me of some emotional issues she had in the past. She has never had a boyfriend of her own. She keeps a binder of wedding dresses, sketches and ideas. I know much of this is normal, but I am increasingly worried that she may need a reality check.
Traveling to NYC is not an option for me. I have both parent's contact information. I really want to reach out to the mother. If the mother becomes alarmed, I won't necessarily be sorry because maybe she needs to come home and regroup, see a doctor and get checked out. If the mother isn't alarmed, there is no problem, but maybe she will be mindful of any red flags?