Tuesday

Excessive Selfies on the Family Desk Top

Kamile Karadeniz/ BlackBlackSea
 My nanny has been uploading pictures from her SD card to our PC to use the editing software. These are not landscape or children photos but a whole lot of pictures of herself, posed around our property. The time stamp on the photos seem to indicate they were taken fairly consistently during morning nap or afternoon nap. I just wonder how normal this is?

I really wish I could include the photos so you could see. They are a little risky, many showcasing her abs, artistically edited to be black and white or high resolution. The more concerning pictures have to do with her holding things that belong to us (bottle of champagne, fireplace poker, frying pan, etc. There is one picture of her with her tongue stuck very far out and on it is the cake topper from our wedding. (?)  There are pictures of her  posing on railing or sitting rather provocatively on the swingset and more than a few with her doing handstands and back bends in strange place (sandbox, bathtub).

I viewed these photos from the recycle bin of the computer. Do I need to address this? She's been taking care of our twins for 7 months without issue.

13 comments:

nannyrobot said...

If the kids were napping, what's the problem? And why are you looking through the photos? She's not naked. Why can't she take pictures with your frying pan? It sounds like she is artistic in a way that you find odd. Forget about it, and ask her to clear the recycle bin when she's done. Don't create a problem out of nothing.

Anonymous said...

I wouldn't say anything.
It's one of those battles that are not worth fighting.

Anonymous said...

If you're not comfortable with her uploading the pics to your computer, make sure you tell her. Otherwise, it doesn't seem like she's doing anything wrong, just peculiar. She's probably bored and passing the time.

melissa said...

Who's taking the pictures? How is she doing a backbend and taking a picture herself? Just wondering. For those wondering why you're looking through her pictures, well, they're on your computer. I think you have every right. And if I found pics of my nanny (if I had one) putting things of mine on her tongue, I'd definitely say something. Gross.

STAHP said...

That's so weird! Are they definitely selfies and not pics taken by a friend? It's during nap but this would irk me.

Susan said...

The question is why SHOULD she take pics of her boss's things? Total boundary stomping IMO

Anonymous said...

Household computer...parents have a right to peak. Want privacy? Don't use the parents computer.

That aside, yes its disturbingly common. Its an issue with a very young coworker and frankly. Drives me crazy! Especially her Snapchat use. My coworker does it all day long at various times when her work is slow or she's waiting for something. Society has become quite narcisitic with cellphone social media.

Angi

Anonymous said...

Although it is a bit odd that she is posing with you things, she probably thinks she is completely deleting them and would probably be MORTIFIED if she knew you had seen them. I don't think it is a huge issue unless she is taking pictures with things from your bedroom or other private areas. I wouldn't say anything unless the pictures become vastly inappropriate.

Anonymous said...

Then don't use someone else's computer. This will be a lessen learned

Angi

RBTC said...

as the others said - boundary problem - that is an indication of other problems - keep a very careful eye on the situation

you should definitely communicate with her on this subject as it will let her know of your views and needs

this_nick said...

This is nothing unusual among young people. She's trying to take interesting/funny/attractive pics to impress the boys on social media. Those of us who find it odd just aren't that young anymore lol.

Anonymous said...

I say get over it. She is just taking selfies which every one does now a days. If it bothers you that much hire an older woman who will BORE your kids to death. Or someone who will neglect them to take pics. At least she does it during a nap. So many of my peers have taken nanny jobs and were so lazy with the kids, you said yourself that she was good with them. You seem uptight, sure she might be a little odd but thats ok. As long as she is a good person. Youre kids will benefit seeing someone different than your family memebers and realzing they are a good person. And get over yourself and your stuff, you probably (and i do mean probably, im aware i dont know you at all) have much nicer things than she could have right now. Maybe she wants to impress her friends? Who cares... she is good to your kids and thats all that matters. But stressing over your wedding cake topper makes you seem so just pretentious.

Anonymous said...

lock your computer. pw ftw.