Can she rehabilitated? She seems good in so many ways. She has energy, is organized, she doesn't do housekeeping but leaves the house so clean. She makes nutritious snacks and meals, does all kind of athletic stuff with the kids, which I love. The problem is she says things like, "You are being lazy". I asked her not to say that and she says, "It's true, but I don't stop there, I say, "you are being lazy or making a lazy choice, what would be a better choice". She does the same things when it comes to grooming, telling the kids they look sloppy, their breath smells, they need to take care in their own appearance at this age, etc. When I say she says their breath smells, I mean literally my daughter came down and gave her a hug around the neck and she put her hand up in the air and said, "Yuck, is that your breath? Aren't you supposed to brush your teeth before you come downstairs?". I think it is is harsh, but she says she doesn't mean it in a bad way and that it is the truth, would I want a friend to tell them that? Or should she while they are in the house and can rectify the situation?