Saturday

The Easter Egg Hunt on Passover

     My twins told me they had an Easter egg hunt at the park with the nanny on Friday. Friday, as in Passover. The nanny knows we are Jewish, she may not know what Passover entails, but she knew the kids had to be ready early for Passover plans. She's certainly a bright girl. I didn't learn of this until Saturday morning. I've wanted to text her, call her and let her know how upset I was. I don't think there is any way to come back from this. The nanny has been with us since October. At this point, I'm really hoping that I find a great nanny in tomorrow's paper and can call and tell her not to come back.
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     The Egg hunt involved colored plastic eggs she had filled with little cars and candy. For some background, we are not very religious. I know she celebrates Christmas and we got her a nice Christmas present.I cannot wrap my head around why she would think this is okay, because she has shown good judgment and her employment so far has been without incident. I'm hoping I feel better by morning, but this is weighing heavily on me.
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15 comments:

Anonymous said...

I think you are over reacting if you fire her. You yourself said you are not that religious AND if you did not explain what you expect at holidays then you are partly at fault. I'm sure she ment no harm by it and would feel horrible is she knew she did something to go against your beliefs.

Sarah said...

They are kids... Let them be kids. They will learn more about Passover as they get older. She just wanted the kids to have fun.. Isn't that all that matters?

heidi said...

I'm Catholic and work for a Jewish family. Easter being the whole dying on a cross thing is a big no no. So I get that. Maybe it wasn't as your kids described? I play hiding ganes with my kids all the time..like with peppermint patties or fruit rollups, not usually with Easter Eggs on Good Friday/Passover.

Anonymous said...

My father was a minister. Growing up people thought I had to be home or at church for all the religious holidays, Sunday and every night read my bible and couldn't watch certain shows. In other words have no life other then church. That wasn't true and I had to explain it to them. Otherwise they wouldn't know. YOU said that your not that religious and if You don't explain what you expect from your nanny with these holidays then how do you expect her to know? Mistakes happen and firing her for what I'm sure was an honest mistake would be really crazy.

Anonymous said...

If you're not very religious what's the big deal?
Lighten up.

daynag11 said...

In my opinion, you are overreacting. I'm Jewish and decorated Easter eggs with my nanny kids yesterday. It was a fun craft, and a good time was had by all. It was also completely innocent and had nothing to do with religion whatsoever. If I were your nanny, I definitely would have talked with you before taking the kids, but I'm sure your nanny just wanted to do something fun and special with your kids. Just one opinion from a fellow nanny!

Angi Martin, nanny of 30yrs said...

Agree 100%!!!!

In the grand scheme of thibgs, OP, did the kids suffer? Educate her, make all expectations known before you leave, etc. But completely over reacting since it sounds like she wasnt aware.

Toby said...

I don't undetstand how you can be not that religious and yet so upset? I think what you are really saying here is that you have lapsed in your faith and because you are not doing your job by providing your children the religious direction you know you should, you feel almost slighted over the innocent egg hunt. That's the sense I get and I've worked with police departments on missing persons cases.

NJGranny said...

Easter eggs are not a religious symbol and you are not religious. Way overeacting. I am 66, a mother not a nanny. Get a grip, lady.

Lyn said...

I think Toby nailed it. Jewish mom here and I wouldn't be bothered in the least by plastic easter eggs.

UPDATE from OP said...

OP Here. I took some time to think about it, reflected on comments and shared the story with family and I may have overreacted. The good news is I never said word one to the nanny and I didn't lose any of my weekend in a mad search for a replacement nanny. Live and learn.

Angi Martin, nanny of 30yrs said...

Glad to hear it OP. Havr a good week

Anonymous said...

Just think of it as the nanny sharing something from her childhood with your kids. I'm sure you have shared some of your family traditions with her. It's great to learn from our collective experiences.

Katherine Nelson said...

I too was a Christian (mostly by culture) for a Jewish (again mostly cultural) family. It gets a little awkward. Help her and save yourself from another upset and next holiday make your expectations clear. Suggest she share with your children something from her childhood and allow her to participate in a tradition you want your kids involved in

Anonymous said...

If you are not religious, what is your reasoning for not wanted the children to go on an egg hunt? Isn't that a bit hypocritical?