Saturday

Nanny and her BF, the Mother-In-Law?

Leslie Hall/ Grandmas & Aliens
     I am a WOHM mother of three children 4-14, married 16 years. We have had nannies since my oldest was two and with the expected ups and downs. For my to be successful in my field, having a good nanny is important, so I've always let little things slide. My husband has always been a nitpicker, no doubt I think by his mother's four visits a year when she would spend time with the nanny and children and find all sorts of things to criticize.
      I don't really have a problem, just something I find very annoying. We've always hired the same sort of nanny, English or American, some college, active, etc. This last nanny who has been with us four months is as I see her as good as some of our better ones but not necessarily better. My husband however, has nothing to say but good things about her. Here is an example, one morning, she broke the toaster, taking a piece of toast out with tongs. It sparked and then went dead. This was not a big deal and I would probably have just picked up a toaster later that day, since we use the toaster a lot. Right away,my husband rushes over to the toaster, asks her if she is okay, Unplugs the toaster and takes it out to the trash. He then tells me not to worry about it that he will pick up a new toaster that day. And he did. That is so out of character for him. No, this nanny is not especially attractive. I don't think it has to do anything with him being attracted to her, she's not unattractive, but we've had attractive nannies before. The first time my husband's mother came to visit, the nanny was relatively new, so when mil didn't offer criticism, I assumed she was just cutting the new nanny slack. However, oddly enough, when I walked in to the kitchen on Thursday night, the nanny was chatting on the house cordless phone and I assumed it was with a friend, listening to her tone. When she saw me, she had, "It's ____". and handed me the phone. Yes, Mil was just calling to confirm details of her arrival on Sunday, but something isn't sitting well with me. Any thing???
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6 comments:

MANHA MAHMA said...

I wouldn't wonder what the nanny has, but are you still taking care of your husband the way you are supposed to? You have outsourced raising of the kids. Make sure you make up for that in the bedroom. Not meant to be rude, just had to be said.

Anonymous said...

Call it women's intuition. It's Your House, Your Children, Your Husband and Your life. If something doesn't feel right then start looking for a new nanny.

Angi Martin, nanny of 30yrs said...

SMDH....attraction is attraction...it doesnt always sit on looks. Your husband, without a doubt, has feelings for her. She may remind him of someone from his past....especially if his mom has also connected with her like that then that definitely hits to earlier years...someome she also knew and liked. I was raised around guys and boys, gre up a tomboy, all of my friends were men and my bestfriend who has been there for me through everyhing is also a guy...take it from someone who knows men....hes into her. Its time for marriage counceling.

Angi Martin, nanny of 30yrs said...

Agree but why should the nanny suffer for the husbands mentality? This goes deeper than the nanny, therapy is definitely a must. Getting rid of the nanny doesnt mean his mentality will stop and may just push him to act.

Anonymous said...

you might not think she is pretty but it sounds like your husband does.

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