Thursday

Spring Break Bust

 *Update* Received by email: My employer's {*ex} husband {visiting from California} paid me by check this morning (Thursday). He was making it out in front of me and said, and this is a quote as I best recall it, "I am adding $50 to make up for the money your check was shorted last week". And that was it. No other mention of it. I was still stewing about it and thinking about how I would bring it up because I knew I was in the right. She must have told him and he corrected her. Either way, I feel much better, but I will definitely not be putting out any money in advance in the future.

I have been working for this family for two months. Last week was Spring Break. The single mom I work for was out of town for two nights and three days. She forgot to leave the credit card for house use so I used my own cash, as I have before to pay for household or kid's needs. She had told me to "find some fun stuff to do with them". So for the week, we went to see Cinderella, went to to ride Go Karts, went to lunch out at a barbecue place and did a host of other non cost things. I left the bill with her on Friday. This morning, she left me a reimbursement check. It was minus $38.75. She wrote, "Annie, I'm not paying for you to see movies and go out to dinner". I am so PISSED off. Her children are 6 & 10.  I really want to quit over this!  (Originally posted on 3/30/15 @ 955 AM)

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11 comments:

Jmaria said...

Parents are supposed to pay for their nanny to do activities. You're working and doing things you wouldn't be doing if you didn't have their kids. She's being completely out of line. I'm not sure I would quit, but I definitely would address it and also state that you will no longer be fronting any money whatsoever for her children.

Elle said...

What Jmaria said.

Was the bill a receipt with dates/times? Perhaps she's unaware that you did these activities with her kids. And, to the extent that she doesn't want you eating out with them, now you know for the future.

I wouldn't quit over this but definitely have a discussion with her to clarify what you can and can't spend money on and also not be willing to front the money anymore.

VML said...

That's terrible! I have had three nannies in my life. The best of them was the one who took my children out and did things with them. Some things are cost free, but even museums cost money and of course I paid for her admission. I was also happy that my children were out to lunch every now and then. What kind of backwards people are you working for? As far as I know, it is the standard to provide such things for the nanny and the child. It sounds as if she left with the focus being on her travel and you were left to make things up on the fly. It's too bad she wasn't more specific but she wasn't. I would simply tell her that you expect to be paid but if you don't want her to pay for such things for you in the first, you wont exhaust yourself planning such things! Good luck.

Lacy said...

You didn't do any of those things because you wanted to; you did it as part of your job! She needs to pay you back for that; you would have never done any of that with out the kids. Its not like you saw the movie fully; you had to be aware of the kids. Its not like you went out for dinner, you fed the kids with that you feed yourself too.

It is standard for nannies to have their way paid to outings. My family pays for my season passes and anything else they want me to do with the kids (lunch, dinner, treat, games, ect). I wouldn't want to take the kids out if I just had to sit and watch them eat a nice lunch (and me a sack lunch)-- plus the kids would think it as strange and really view the nanny as a 2nd class human.

Anonymous said...

Echoing everyone else here. The family is to pay for your food/entry when its for the basis of their kids.

-Angi

Anonymous said...

I never employed a nanny, but depended on babysitters for my child when he was younger. Even then, I always paid for the sitter as well as my son for household needs (embarrassing!), events, lunch, etc. My "employees" never used their own money, ever. This woman is unprofessional and ridiculous. You deserve better. Line up another job before you quit, though.

Anonymous said...

I thought you said she was a single mom. Now all of a sudden she has a husband.

OP of Spring Break Post said...

When the father comes to town, he stays here at the house. They had an amicable separation and he lives 3000 miles away. I have a second story I can submit about the problems I have regarding this arrangement, but on this occasion, he was kind and I believe he paid me and handled it because the Mom asked him to. I can see her as someone who doesn't like to admit when she is wrong.

Gianluca of ISYN said...

Just saw this. I will edit your 'update'.

OP of Spring Break Post said...

I see the update. They are not divorced but have been sep for three years With him in CA and her staying in NY.

Angi Martin, nanny of 30yrs said...

I find the edits unnecessary. They are legslly married, thus husband. End of story. Thd background doesnt matter here and its not something that needs to be explained.