I need advice for a situation. Please be kind. I’m already upset with myself.
2 years ago a took a job as a nanny for a guy I went to college with
Nothing happened between us in college. I had a crush on him.
I found the job through my agency. I did not realize he was the guy until I went on the interview.
I realize now I should have never taken the job once I discovered who I would be working for, but I truly believed I no longer had any feelings for him, and felt I could work for the situation.
He needed a fulltime nanny because his wife had left and they were divorcing, and he was left with the kids.
My job would be caring for the kids Monday through Friday from sun up till sun down.
At the time I started the kids were 4, 3, and 1 years old. As always, I have fallen completely in love with my charges.
The problem is my boss and I have also formed a relationship beyond that of employee and employer. We haven’t slept together or anything like that, but we have dated/dating. I know I crossed boundaries I never should have crossed.
Thing is the kids’ mother and his ex-wife has returned. I know there are things they need to resolve with each other so long story short I’ve decided to take myself out of the picture.
I have given my notice from the job as well.
I need advice on is the 6 and 5 year old girls have begged me to come to their birthdays and send me notes and pictures. I don’t want to suddenly and completely disappear on them, but at the same time I don’t want to make the situation worse than it is. I also, know that their mother is not fond of me, and I feel as though I need to be respectful of that.