Nanny Wants to Offer Her Help to Parents
Hi! I was hoping to get some advice from my fellow nannies & perhaps some parents about my current position. I'm a full time nanny for sweet eight month old E. He's an absolute joy & I love working with him. He has a five year old brother B for whom I am not responsible & only see in the mornings before he goes to preschool. The last week has proved to be not so healthy in the house (MB was sick on Tuesday & stayed home, DB was sick Wednesday-Friday & stayed home & B stayed home Thursday & Friday) so I've had almost zero space for E & me, which is fine, but I've gotten to know B & his habits a lot more in the past two days. I've always known he was disrespectful to his parents (he doesn't listen, says "no," throws phrases back at his parents "you took that away without asking" or "you need to be patient" when they tell him to do something 'now') & it pains me to sit by & watch him act like that to his dad because I know *I* would *never* let children act like that towards me. The parents & I have a fantastic relationship & have each separately complained to me about his behavior but fail to do anything to correct it. For example, B was sitting at the table with a bowl of soup in front of him not interested in eating because he said he wasn't hungry. He was also flipping through a coloring book & ignoring his father's directives. DB would say "take a few bites of soup," B would ignore, DB says if he doesn't listen he's going to take the book,doesn't do anything, DB takes the book, B says "you can't take things without asking," DB doesn't respond, DB says "if you take a few bites of soup you can have the book back," B takes two bites & gets the book back. This literally happened three times back to back within a few minutes. My last position was with a six year old & four year old triplets so I have plenty of experience with children in this age group & especially children who don't listen (those four were fairly bad until I got there) so I want to offer my help so badly but I don't know if it's out of line because I neither actually care for B nor am around him that often. It's just so frustrating to see his parents frustrated with his behavior but not taking active steps to correct it because I know these behaviors will only intensify with age. Do I offer my help?? Sorry this was so long I am just really in need of some advice. Thanks!!
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