Duped Nanny Dumps Family
OK I am a parent... I initially was going to put my son in daycare but then my neighbor said she could watch my son for 2 days. Since I have been neighbors and friends with her for a long time I decided to hire her as a part time nanny for 3 days. At first she told me that her rate was $12 per hour. I was very upfront with her in letting her know that was way out of the budget and asked her if she would accept $200 for 3 days of care. She said yes, she did not counter with another amount she accepted it, came to meet my family and had me check references. During her interview, my husband asked whether for an extra $50 she would consider dropping off/picking up my stepson (his son) from school 1 day per week, a total driving commitment of 100 miles. She again agreed even commenting that she had lived in the area where my stepson lives and was familiar with the drive etc... so now we are up to $250 for 3 days which included 1 day of driving back and forth. I then asked her if she could do a full week for $300 + $50 which would include the one day of driving so her compensation would be $350 per week to be paid twice monthly ($700) by check.
2 weeks before she was due to start my Father in law tragically passed away and I asked her to start early since MIL had to return early to be with her family. She agreed, however since she was starting early there were a few things different from what we initially discussed. First my stepson was at a different school because his mom was going to move the following week. The location of his present school was actually closer than the one she agreed to drive to. Issue #1... On the first day she said she couldnt do the driving that it was more than she anticipated... HELLO!!!! she said she had previously lived in that area and should have known what was involved... why agree to something and then back out. Issue #2... she complained that we hadn't given her money for tolls (She was reimbursed the minute I got home) I DIDNT EVEN PICK UP MY CHILD FIRST. Ok I said, if you dont want to do the driving we will find someone else but your new salary will not include the extra $50 per week for driving. So she would earn $200 for 3 days or $300 for 5 days (48 hours total)... Remember she initially agreed to this which brings us to Issue #3... she now complains about this, says that she earned $580 on her last job and that she cant accept such little pay... this in spite of the fact that I also offered to let her keep her own child with her after school so she would not have to pay for after school care... so now I'm offering $300 per week plus the chance to save on after school care for her own child.
Now to the final Issue #4... she sends me an email at 9PM on the first day she works for me stating that we duped her and that she is not coming back to my house... so I was left high and dry by someone who basically did not express that she had any problems with the compensation amount until the first day that she started. This is the height of unprofessionalism and another kicker - she complained that I wanted to pay her by check because she wanted to keep everything under the table... I don't get people demanding top dollar but not wanting to pay taxes on it... as I told her I could have offered more if she would be legal about it. My son is now in daycare... I can't deal with this stress ever again. - Anonymous
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