Camera Caught Nanny in Compromising Position
We just hired a fulltime nanny about 2mos ago. Everything has been working out well, the kids seem to have taken to her and we really like her. I have 2 boys (2 and 4) and a girl (5mos) - we pay a bit on the higher end for our area because we want and expect the best for our kids. We don't ask much of her, just to keep up behind herself and our children and occasionally run errands.
However, we've hit a snag and aren't sure what to do. We stressed to her upon hiring that we don't want any guests over when she's working. She takes the children on outings because we understand being cooped up with young ones all day can be rough and we encourage her to make friends, have playdates, etc. But we found out via the nanny cam she had a male friend visit. It upset us because she broke one of the rules, but more importantly, they had a little make out session on the couch in full view of my kids while they sat watching TV.
One of our problems is we never told her we had a nanny cam so if I confront her about this, of course she may feel betrayed. BUT, my husband and I feel betrayed also. She is supposed to be setting a good example for our kids and making out with some boyfriend on the couch is not acceptable. I need to do something about this soon because the longer I think about it the more upset I get. We don't want to lose her because in the short time she has been here she has done an amazing job, again because we saw it for ourselves on the nanny cam. We were actually going to shut it down since she'd proven to us she could be trusted but now we're a bit disappointed and just need a way to tactfully approach her about this. Please help! - Concerned Mom
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