Unruly Youngster Rules the Roost
Hi! This is my first time posting to the site (which I love so much!), so my apologies if I'm doing this incorrectly. Should I Stay or Should I Go? I have been a Nanny for an amazing family with two boys ages 5 and 2 1/2. I have been working for this family for almost a year now and everything is great ... some what. I have an amazing salary and great benefits, but my days have turned very long and stressful.
My problem is M.B and D.B and their manipulative 5 year old who rules the roost. We all have a great relationship and I have very open communication with M.B but lately I am at my wits end. The 5 year old "R" has been throwing me under the bus the past few weeks in front of his parents and telling them I haven't taken him certain places, bought him things etc. M.B doesn't usually pay to much attention to him when he does this but the past few days she has made comments to me about "R" complaining about how I dress him. She questioned me about how I dressed him the other day and then makes me look like the bad guy in front of a 5 year old and I am left feeling like they don't have enough trust in me to even dress a child.
I am also frequently asked where missing toys are and why I put certain toys away. Both M.B and D.B are extremely busy working professionals and they have hovered over me in the past. I believe they will try anything to be apart of the boys day and are somewhat "jealous" that I get to spend all day with their sons/do many fun activities. We have had several discussions about how they need to let go of the reigns and stop with the constant phone calls checking on the kids but the last few weeks I've left work crying, miserable and then in a crabby mood the next morning on my way into work. I'm sorry if I am rambling but I am struggling with whether I should leave my job or not. I use to love my job/family but now I am just flat out done and I need some advice.. do I tell M.B that I cant handle their 5 year old who is manipulative who throws me under the bus on a daily basis or do I just give my notice and move on? I love reading this blog and I know there are some great nannies out there who have probably been in similar situations. Thank You! - Anonymous
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