The Other Side of a Bad Coin
I don't know if this is a story you want on ISYN but I thought I'd try anyway. I'm a nanny myself and was with my charges the other day in the park when I noticed a very tiny little girl interacting with one of my charges for quite awhile. I started looking around for parents or a nanny for this little child and couldn't see anyone that seemed to be looking for her. It was a very big park, full of people and very busy at the time, with two separate jungle gym type areas. We were at the far end right near the parking lot.
After a few minutes playing with my charges, she noticed that I had their dog with me over by the tree where I was watching them from. She came right over to me and started asking about the dog, telling me all about her dog, and all about her life including her first and last name and that she was 3 years old. She was adorable, chatty, friendly, and still NO one was looking for her. I kept looking all around the park, and I looked at my phone and the total time she was with me/my charges was 20 minutes! My boss/charge's house was less than a mile from there. I could have been anyone!!! The reason she came over to me was because of the dog, and if I was the wrong kind of person, I could have had her in my car and back at their house twice over in the amount of time she was with me. By the way, this is Tucson, Arizona. A city where we still have Isabelle Celis missing since April, and now there are two girls in Iowa missing since July.
I even asked this girl who was with her and she said "mommy, but she's tired, she's reading her book over there" and pointed in the direction of a mass of people and kids. After 20 minutes with me, (and she's lucky it was me), this mom started calling her name from somewhere far away and then screamed at her for talking to a stranger. How about you WATCH your kid, idiot? I knew all about her life by the time she came and got her and could have been gone with her by then if I had been the wrong person, and the way the park was set up it could have easily happened! I was furious but the mom whisked her away so I said nothing but I've been thinking about it and getting more angry ever since it happened.
Just as a side note here - I see lots of posts about "bad" nannies or nannies who don't constantly play with their kids and maybe I'm biased since I'm a nanny myself but whenever I'm in parks or play groups, it's the moms who sit around chatting with other moms or read magazines or talk or text on their phones more than the nannies do. We're expected to be perfect at all times, and I'm not saying I'm perfect but I'm super paranoid about watching mine, and maybe I'm not constantly hovering over them or trying to play with them (they DO need independant play sometimes people), but I ALWAYS have my eyes on them! If you see a nanny sitting on a bench watching her kids, don't assume she's lazy because she's not playing with them. Kids need to play with other kids sometimes. The point is to watch them closely and not let them wander off! - Anonymous
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