Friday

The Merciless MB

OPINION
I was working for a family for two months when the MB went on a month long vacation whilst my charges went to their fathers for that month (separated family.) I was asked by MB to go up there and take the charges out and go on day trips with them and dad. I agreed. I didn't have anything else to do, plus was meant to be paid for 4 weeks vacation.

While she was away MB wanted her garage deep cleaned, yard watered daily, weeding done. All without access to a bathroom (I have a medical problem that means I can't be away from a bathroom for too long.) I couldn't and wouldn't do it but arranged for it to be done for her. She gave me her car to use but 2 days after leaving told me to return it. She then started calling, telling me I had to ask permission to see the children at their dads. Even though she told me to communicate with him, to see them, take them out, etc. I did 2 overnights for him which he paid me separately for. She threw a fit, telling me she told me not to contact him. When she returned, the harassing continued.

I wasn't paid my fourth week vacation (agreed to be paid Friday, day after she returned) then had her boyfriend text, telling me I need a valid reason to remain employed. Needless to say, I quit. I had problems prior with her refusing to pick up after herself. I would come in to dirty plates from a whole weekend, her clothes everywhere (dirty), and was told I had to clean up after her. She is now saying I am a thief and need to return the 3 weeks pay to her as I didn't return to work. I had every intention of returning until the abusive messages started from her. She is threatening to call the police and say I stole the money. I haven't got the money to give her. I don't know what to do. She is telling me she will show up at my husbands work. She's also threatening she will have me deported (I have a green card to be here legally.) Please, I need advice!

24 comments:

Bethany said...

This is insanity!

I know you don't have the money anymore, but do you hae proof that she paid you like a paystub or something?

Also save every text or email she or her boyfriend sent you . Delete nothing.

Op said...

Op here, I have no paystub but she paid with checks
I have all messages still. Including the ones saying she is paid under the table to make sure she gets more child support from her ex.

LinziLuLu said...

It just sounds like she is scared OP, and trying to scare you into keeping your mouth shut. Just ignore her, and save everything. Every text, every voicemail. If she doesn't/hasn't stopped within a week, take everything to the police station and even if they can't do anything, they can at least make a report so it's on file. Also, did you cash those checks into your own bank account? If you did, the bank has copies of them. If not, forget about that area.....it's her word against yours.

peaches said...

OP, this MB is screwed! You have a text of her admitting she is paid under the table to make sure she gets more child support from her ex? Wow, lol. She is a total dumbass! Let her keep up this madness, she is going to really get into trouble. LinziLuLu is absolutely right. Tell MB to stop. Send it in e-mail or text ONLY if she sends you another, then keep it for proof that you asked her to stop. Then if she does it again, take everything to the police station and file a report. If she takes you to court, she will lose.

You've done nothing wrong here, except maybe keep a bit of money you shouldn't have (although it sounds as if you definitely earned it!) so, how many weeks did you actually work that you owe her from? Can you borrow the money from someone to get her off your back? How much is it?

you need a moniker said...

RE-post for anonymous...
This person is on drugs and / or insane. Let her file a court case. That might make it to Judge Judy ;) You've done nothing wrong. Get a restraining order- just walk into your local clerk's office and file if any contact is made- after telling her to F- OFF. This sucks but it's life in America!

Take her to the court said...

Wow, she's insane! Listen, she's trying to scare you since you have a green card. You won't be deported. She has no idea how deportation works. If I was you, I would go to te police and file a report against her, for defamation. She's calling you a thief for no reason! Have you ever worked overtime? You cold get her for that.

Lyn said...

Oh my goodness! Honey don't stress! You are free of these terrible work conditions! And you MB won't go to the police or come after you she sounds petty and insane. I would text her back saying something about the texts you have from her admitting her illegal activities and she should remember that before she keeps harassing me and my family. That is nuts!! So sorry OP!

Dr. Juris said...

Go to the police, file a restraining order, and make sure to follow up with the hearing for a permanent order. Print off all threats, all communication, and gather all the information about that money. Don't respond to anything she says.... The police serving her with the temporary restraining order will say it all.

Op said...

Op again, she was bonkers I stayed longer because I adored the kids. I worked all three weeks yes only 2-3 days out of 5 that I had been working but longer days than normal due to a hour commute to her exes house. ( he was really nice, he reimbursed me for gas etc and paid me extra)
She did all this the week before my wedding too knowing i relied on the money.

Vanessa said...

Very easy, threaten to get a restraining order against her. Save all the threats and evidence of her harassment. That should calm her down. Also, she can't get you deported. You already have a green card and they can only deport you over criminal charges. So far she has nothing on you for you to be in any kind of trouble. Do NOT back down, do NOT give her any money. You don't owe her ANYTHING. Unless she paid you in advance and you quit, you don't owe her a penny. Don't worry, she's a loon, you'll be fine.

♥ Amy Darling ♥ said...

I would just flat out ignore her from now on. Do not communicate via text, e-mail and/or phone.

She is probably just trying to scare you.

Crazy broad.

you need a moniker #2 said...

RE-post for anonymous...
Seek the advice of her ex-husband, he must be used to her abuse and probably would love to know about the hidden income.

aregular said...

Exactly what Dr. Juris said! I would take care of it ASAP if I were you. Good luck!

ICPatient said...

OP, do you have a bladder disease called "IC?" I have it. Its hell.

gypsy said...

You have NOTHING against her UNTIL you tell her to stop contacting you. Its not considered harassment until you've asked her to stop. Then, get a notebook out & record each & every interaction with her. Dates & times. A judge loves that!!!!

Don't you dare let her threaten your green card. That crazy biotch doesn't know crap!!! You're here to stay, missing! Stand tall!!!

Want me to flatten the tires on all her cars? I'm craZy like that.

Hehe

gypsy said...

You're here to stay, missy.* (not missing..lol)

Lyn said...

Gypsy, I laughed so loud at the last 2 sentences of your post!! I can totally see a group of us doing something like that, hahaha!

Op said...

Op again,
Her ex was great called me after I quit telling how amazing I was, that he understood why I would leave, and that I'm welcome to work for him.
He knows about the hidden income ( I told him) he is to nice to be screwed over by her.
Pp I have inflammatory bowel disease ( ulcerative colitis)
I've told her to stop several times to leave me and my family alone. So far it's been a week but still on edge. I have an excellent attorney ( my immigration one) who will help me if need be.
Her ex also said he would testify for me if it goes to court.

Dr. Juris said...

Gypsy, love the message, but just as a quick correction: you do NOT have to tell someone to stop for it to be harassment. :)

tire_slashing_gypsy said...

Hehe. Good! I'm a Lyn fan! We could totally go ape shi* on this woman! Go all hand that rocks the cradle, as someone here said recently!!! Slashing tires & egging her cars! Lol Show her who is ten times more crazy than her!

gypsys said...

That's just want attorneys have told me. Maybe its a regional thing?

gypsy said...

You know what I was thinking about this. If say an old boyfriend is calling you 20x a day & you don't want it. Unless you ask them to stop, their defense could be, I was trying to get ahold of you & I was worried. You never picked up, I didn't know if you were dead or alive. In such a case, asking the person to stop would be neccesary to prove harassment. Because prior to asking tthem to stop, they can always conjur up a great defense. So, it would depend on the case whether or not you'd need to request them to stop. OP, the laws vary by state what is legally defined as harassment. As your lawyer to define it for you. So you know where you are.

And keep in mind gypsy, Lyn & the nanny brigade are on stand by if you find yourself in need of a tire slashing session....lol

Op said...

Gypsy you make me chuckle :-) tire slashing sounds fun :-)

tire-slashing-gypsy said...

We have your back, OP. Whatever it takes.... : )