Struggling for Spontaneity, Creativity and Authority
I am struggling with this same issue right now: "Input on at-home Parents. I am a first time nanny and only knew part of what to expect with this title, but was not prepared for what I have encountered over the past year. I worked previously in daycare and wanted to switch, but now I miss my job as a teacher. I had more freedom in the classroom, not only in terms of not having the feeling of someone hovering over me, but also the freedom to be creative with the child. The family that I work for now, the mom is ALWAYS home (working in her office) and the dad works, but with his schedule it seems like he's ALWAYS home too. They are two of the nicest ppl you could ever work for, but I constantly feel like I'm under the microscope. Mom questions everything I do and I have to run everything by her before I do ANYTHING with the child. I can't even have play dates, if she doesn't personally know the families. I feel like if I'm not trusted to do my job then I shouldn't be the one doing it.
The little girl I care for is a little over 1 year old and has begun throwing lots of tantrums when she doesn't get what she wants. I feel as if when I'm trying to correct her, I feel like I'm being watched. The child does not at all listen to me or look to me as an authority figure, but more like an extra set of hands or a playmate (its been like this since I started). By the way she is still nursing and prefers to have her mother most of the time. I need to feel useful, but how can I when mom and dad are SO hands on even when I'm there. I feel, at this point, I'm not needed and should look for other work. What do you guys think? Please, I would love to hear your suggestions.
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