09 April, 2012
Reassuring Mom She is Still the Bomb!
So we have all been there, if you work with toddlers, you know there is a progression that is nearly always the same. I still don't know how to handle it.
Nanny shows up, Baby panics and clutches at Mom. This doesn't mean that Baby doesn't like Nanny, but she understands that Nanny's arrival means Mom's departure. As Baby gets older, she realizes that Mom will always come back, and will be there for her no matter what. At this point, she is delighted to see Nanny, and doesn't get upset when Mom leaves. Mom is sad. Mom thinks Baby loves Nanny best because she (Mom) is somehow lacking. When Mom gets home, sometimes Baby does not want Nanny to leave because she is having fun with Nanny. It doesn't mean that Baby likes Nanny better, it just means that she is living in the moment of whatever she and Nanny are playing.
My charge A and I have really bonded. I met her at 8 months and now she is 16 months old. MB has been saying things lately like, "Oh you don't care if I leave now that (Nanny) is here," and when she gets home, she is upset if A doesn't run to hug her instantly. Then when I leave and A hugs me a million times, MB looks upset, and I feel guilty. A and I have a lot of fun together, but what can I say to reassure MB that her daughter loves her best?
at 12:16 AM