Micromanaging Migraine

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How do I deal with a DB that is constantly micromanaging my day with the kids. A constant I do it this way and buzzing around. I have no problem doing as the parents want but this goes beyond it. He's not abusive or anything but I think I'm going nuts, add to it that with my last review he had nothing to say, no areas of improvements.


Just My Two Cents Just Now said...

Been there a lot...done that a lot as well.

It sounds like you are working for a Dad who works out of the home, right? If so, things will not get better. Trust me...working for parents who are in the home is HELL. They constantly tell you how to speak, act, play, etc.

Sure, you can do the noble thing and try and talk to him..but don't expect much in return.

I would look for another job where the parents BOTH work outside the home. That is the only way you will avoid "going nuts."

Best of luck to you OP.

CityNanny said...

Ugh, I know how you feel. I'm in the same boat right now with my DB. He's such a pain in the ass. I dread going to work everyday and I'm actually in the process of looking for another job. OP, how long have you been working for the family?

♥ Amy Darling ♥ said...

I have worked for parents who work at home and it sucks. They are supposed to be "working"...but it seems they are more concerned w/what YOU are doing and it is annoying as heck.

I have a policy now that I ONLY work for families where both parents work outside of the home thus allowing me 100% autonomy.

@City Nanny: I am sorry you dread going to work..I have felt that way about many jobs and it sucks. Hope you find something better soon.

Manhattan Nanny said...

Re micromanaging your day.
Do you arrive with a plan for the day? I would try coming in in the morning with a written schedule to show him. Try to do away from home activities, such as playground, library story time, museum, pet store, play dates much as possible.
As for him telling you how to do things, I'm afraid that is something we have to put up with. Hopefully the longer you are there, the less he will "buzz around".

Phoenix said...

I hate it when people micromanage, expecially if you know what you are doing. It is one thing to watch an employee and tell them what to do if they have screwed up in the past. It is quite another to follow your employees every move if they have not given you a reason to do so. I think some bosses do this because they are OCD and they can't relinquish control. Others do it because they flat out don't trust their employee (which is highly insulting) and some bosses do this because they have a huge ego and think they are the only ones who know how to do anything. Either way it's annoying.

I suggest planning some activities outside the home; parks, walks, swimming pool. And when you are at home you are just going to have to deal with it. As much as he is annoying he is your boss. I have a boss like this at my job. Really starting to piss me off. But I can't afford to go off on him

Phoenix said...

ooops LOl Manhattan Nanny I didn't read your post. My bad! I said pretty much the same thing you did.

Village said...

It's hard out there for a control freak, and those who have to deal with them. I wouldn't count on a change.

ericsmom said...

Tell him with a laugh he is driving you crazy!
I am being serious. Probably shock the crap out of him.

Don't take it personal he probably does it to everyone around him. Wanna bet he does this to his wife too. I bet she tells him to bug off.

Andrea said...

Not okay. They hired you as a professional. All the things he's annoying you about could have been said in the job description. If he keeps doing it find a new job! I have been in this position and had to quit because it was awful.