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The Haughty Nanny

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I just started a job for a wonderful family. The kids are an infant, a 12 and 11 year old. The pay is great and the family is super layed back, encouraging outings and even personal shopping trips so I can get out of the house. The neighborhood has 2 other nannies. I have went on two outings with them and it drove me nuts! I've always had annoyances with other nannies but I always give it a shot. Something about them just always gets to me. Idk what it is but i have never been able to stand it. Does anyone else steer clear of other nannies or am I just stuck up?

19 comments:

Just My Two Cents Just Now said...

What exactly is it about being w/other Nannies that irks you OP? I would need more details.

If being w/them irks you, I would just hanging around them.

Just My Two Cents Just Now said...

*stop

CarolinaNanny said...

I guess it all depends on why they bug you! I met one nanny when I first moved and started my current job and she SUCKED! She was very competitive and always comparing our jobs, trying to figure out what I was being paid, constantly just trying to one-up me in the nanny world. Needless to say we didn't click and we don't hang out.
My best friend now, however, is another nanny that I met a few months after the first one and she is great because we can vent about our jobs, get advice, and just hang out when we both need to get away from our jobs on our off time. So...I don't think you are stuck up! I just don't think you've found where the cool nannies hang out. :)

Lyn said...

I wish I could be in your shoes in some small way! Haha, I'm a borderline nanny stalker. I've been a Nanny for 5 years and just recently moved to NC. I have been looking and looking and cannot find even one other Nanny to be my "Nanny Friend". I'm dying for someone to compare notes with about outings, educational crafts/games/lessons, maybe have one to meet up with at the same playgroup/park/zoo with the kids. I can't find one anywhere around me and it's a huge bummer. It sucks moving to a new state and not knowing hardly anyone and having such distance between yourself and Nanny friends you've made in the past. If it wasn't for my Hubs I would have gone crazy!

ELam said...

It depends. What bothered you about them? I've always enjoyed the other nannies I spent time with in my old neighborhoods.

m said...

I vote stuck up. Sounds like you are stuck up.

Bre said...

I find it a little odd that you always find it impossible to get on with another nanny.

What are they doing that bothers you?

CarolinaNanny said...

@Lyn-- I laughed when I read your post...my MB was constantly trying to hunt down other nannies for me to find me friends when I first moved here and I called her a nanny stalker too hahaha. Btw I'm in NC...where in NC are you?

Nannycaroline said...

Hey, I'm a lonely nanny in North Carolina too! I work in Durham with a nearly 11 month old.

MissMannah said...

Until you tell us why don't like other nannies I'm going to have to say yes, you are stuck up.

Wnc nanny said...

I'm a wnc nanny and would love to find a NC nanny friend!!

Lyn said...

YAY! NC Nannies exist!!!! Haha! I'm in Winston Salem!

bostonnanny said...

My best friend is also a nanny and we met at a sing a long. I'm always on the hunt for new nanny friends.

Jedd Meir said...

I have one close nanny friend who I would kill for and a handful of nanny acquaintances. Most of my friends are either single mothers or hermit writers like myself.

OP, I don't necessarily believe you're "stuck-up" in not wanting the company other nannies. You may have valid reasons. Nannies tend to carry a lot of personal baggage around with them during the day and have no other adult to share in the misery. There are days when I'm downright giddy to see the UPS man if for no other reason than to say, "Hey, isn't this weather great?" In all honesty, if the poor guy stepped inside and chatted for a bit, say around 11 a.m., he'd want to slit his wrists by noon.

ELam said...

Where will all you ladies when I was a nanny in Chapel Hill?!?! I could've used some more of you to commiserate with =)

ELam said...

Where were***

Phoenix said...

what a wonderful way to get to know yourself and understand your own personal preferences when you choose your friends.

From your original statement I think you are concerned that you are being stuck-up. I don't know why you would think this if you are making an effort to be friends with people and you just generally don't like them. I don't think it is because they are nannies but it must be certain qualities these people possess that just turn you off. Think about the friends you do have. What are they like? How do these new people you meet compare to them? Don't consider their occupation a relative indicator of why you don't like someone. Also, you don't necessarily need to find friends in your own career. Yes this is usually a common bond between people, and people are naturally drawn to others that they can relate to. But it is ok if you don't. So I wouldn't be too concerned about it. I think you should use your outings for your own personal reflection time rather than trying to form new friendships

CityNanny said...

I've been in your shoes. I've met a few awesome nannies who were on the same page as me and one who is a best friend of mine.
However, I know at least a dozen nannies who I prefer to keep as aquaintences. Some nannies are just wicked competitive, like you said- asking how much I made, comparing bosses, schedules, etc., and it's obnoxious. I think you're fine.

FamilyNanny said...

I'm a family nanny. Meaning I nanny for my own family lol. I don't trust day cares when it came to my sisters kids because of my experiences as a kid so I do everything a nanny would do except its for my own family. My friend used to babysit for her sister and we'd take my youngest nephew and her youngest neice on outings together and omg talk about day/night. I still only barely tolerate her but other nannies/child care providers are completely different. If they've been with the families for a while they one up their charges, they say their situation is better or worse. If it's not that they are just total opposites. They're in it cause they need a job while you might actually love working with kids like I do. I used to work with kindergarteners starting in 6th grade and the teachers would pass on advice since I was a natural in the area. I know parents, grandparents, aunts etc who call me for advice on stuff. Yes that sounds snobbish and my aunt thought so until she had to call about her grandson lol. When my advice hit right on the nose she realize OMG she knows what she's talking about. Long story short, you're not a snob. You are good at what you do and you probably find other nannies not in the same frame of mind. Totally understandable.