Received Monday, July 12, 2010
I've been a Nanny for the past 2.5 years for the same family. I started when the child was 2 weeks old now he's 2.5, obviously. Anyway, when I came on the interview for the job I was assured that both parents would be returning to working. Long story short mom never returned to working full-time. She works 2 days at the office and 3 days at home. At first I thought it was a new mom anxiety thing, not wanting to leave the baby with a stranger but would soon see there's nothing to worry about, that I can be trusted, and I take GREAT care of the baby. Needless to say it's been 2 years and mom still hasn't returned to work on a full-time basis. The job has progressively gotten harder, with mom being home, sometimes she works from home all 5 days. The child is increasingly getting very hard to deal with, especially since he knows his mother is right down the hall (the apt is tiny). Everything is a struggle. When I brought the subject up about 5 months ago that I'm uncomfortable and stressed with her working from home, mom just simply said to me in a very sarcastic tone"you just have to get use to me working from home". Yes I know it's her house and she has all the rights. But I always get the feeling that my opinions for unimportant to her, this is very hurtful. Personally, I don't think I need to get use to anything. All I need to do is get a new job. I feel as if I was tricked. Honestly I really tried to adjust to the situation, but it's hard and mom doesn't make any easier. Finally I found a new job and I really want this new job, how do I break the news to my current employer? I intend to give 4 weeks notice, but what do I say? Should I be honest and tell her how I feel and why I am leaving? I really want her as a reference for future job hunting... Or just make up something? What to do?