Received Tuesday, December 8, 2009
Sorry this isn't a sighting, but I'm hoping to get help with a situation I'm having. I've been a nanny for my current family for about a year and a half. I watch two wonderful kids ages 2 and 4. Overall it is a good work situation and I adore the children, and they are very attached to me. That's part of the problem. We've gone through several phases of the kids wanting me not their parents, or crying when I had to leave, and though I'm sure it hurt the parents' feelings, they've understood and eventually the phase ended.
However, now I have a bit of a problem. The parents have always referred to me as part of the kids family. (They used that word, not me, because I didn't want to put myself into a position I did not belong in.) So the kids now refer to me as part of their family, and I'm honored, but with the holidays we're having a problem. The day before Thanksgiving while I was doing a Thanksgiving craft with the kids, the 2 year old asked about me being at their house for Thanksgiving dinner. I tried to explain that Thanksgiving is a good day to spend with family and that they'd be with their parents and grandparents and I'd be with my family. She seemed okay with the answer, but on Thanksgiving day through a huge fit because I wasn't there to be with them (the parents told me about it Monday).
I'm wondering how to explain the difference between blood family and a nanny who loves them to the kids. I don't want her to have another fit at Christmas, but I don't want her to think I don't love her. How do other nannies or employers explain the lack of the nanny's presence at holidays to kids? Any help would be appreciated.