Received Wednesday, July 1, 2009
I am a Nanny for a high profile family in Ohio. The baby is now 20 months old and the mom, who is a stay at home mom told me today they are thinking about putting him in daycare 2 days a week from 830-1230. This is a very prestigious daycare...very expensive, so I'm wondering if it isn't more for the "clout" than for the need. When he was 10 months old, they wanted to do the same thing...supposedly to gain social skills. I explained to them that I was waiting until he was walking to enter him into social activities because I didn't want him crawling on public floors and the such. Well, the saw that I was much more active with him, so they called off putting him in at that time. We do the Zoo, the Museum's, play dates twice a week, one on one with another child and nanny near the same age as my charge. We do story-time, walks, pool time, Infant survival swim, gymnastics and he plays one on one with cousins and the such too. She says to me today that she's concerned that he is only socially exposed in one on one situations and that they are thinking about putting him into this daycare situation to give him more "Group" time. I'm like WTF. I'm sorry, maybe I'm wrong here, but why put a child in that if it's not necessary? He is only freaking 20 months old, my gosh!!!! I tried to hint to her that he was a normal boy for his age and progressing on schedule as to how he interacts and that children usually don't play "together" until they are more like 3 yrs. Anyhow, she said I will need to make up the hours that he is in school by working later and on weekends. I am ON CALL, AS NEEDED and work late now, and most Saturdays...so I'm like WTF here....ya know? She snaps her fingers and I run...what else do they want...and why should I have to make concessions because they want to put him in school away from my time with him. To me it is all ridiculous. Can you parents and nannies help me here? Help me understand where they are going with this possibly and if they are right and maybe I'm over reacting? And can you help me with suggestions on how to talk to them about this. I really think he is not in need of the pre school thing right now. I can see him getting sick and picking up bad habits from other children and it's just not necessary yet, you know what I mean? Geez, he's just a new toddler...can't they just let him enjoy it?
-Nanny in Ohio