Received Tuesday, June 9, 2009
Hi. I'm a nanny and I'm new to this site. I just wanted to send in a rant/question. I understand that there are plenty of bad nannies out there because trust me I've seen them and being a nanny myself, I tend to get upset at all the negative "press" we get so I don't mind calling out a bad nanny.
My issue right now is with some of the parents that post on this site. You all automatically assume that if a child is being neglected by an adult that we must be the child's nanny, that is not the case. I have seen plenty of parents in the town where I live completely ignore their child while shopping, talking with friends, hanging out at the playground (museum, coffee shop, restaurant, etc.). I have seen children tear apart a coffee shop while their parents sit and chit chat about the local gossip. You think nannies are so bad but you don't realize your just as guilty as they are when it comes to being bad. No one is perfect every minute of every day. Yes there are some really horrible nannies out there but normally they get fired and have a hard time finding a job but who's there for the kid when it's the other way around and the parent is the one neglecting them????
For all you parents out there snapping away camera phone pics of a nanny sitting on a bench holding a child or sitting with one in a stroller, how do you consider that a bad nanny?? And where are your kids while your snapping pictures of "bad nannies"???? I don't understand how you can snap a picture of a nanny sitting down on a bench with a child sitting in front of/beside her in a stroller and consider her a bad nanny. How do you know she's not just taking a break while the child is sleeping?? You don't and it's really sad that you whip out a camera phone and take a picture of an unsuspecting person who just happens to be catching a few minutes rest before they go back to work?
Being a nanny is so different than having a normal job. Most of us are with kids 10+ hours a day, and now we have to worry about nutty parents taking a quick camera phone picture while we're taking a 15 minute break? Well thanks. It's nice to know we really are lower on the food chain than all of you "moms".
A lot of the parents that complain about their nannies also do the following::::
-write up a contract and don't stick to it once the nanny has started.
-pay the nanny "under the table" so that they can work the nanny 50+ hours without paying them overtime.
-expect the nanny to work weekends even though that was never agreed upon.
-never back the nanny up on anything and let the children walk all over the nanny
-take out marital problems on us
-have us doing above and beyond what we're suppose to be doing such as house keeping and I'm not just talking about cleaning up after the kids.
I mean there is a huge list of things and I could go on and on and on but I wont. I just don't think it's funny that the nanny's are the ones who constantly get the bad reputation but we also dedicate the majority of our lives to taking care of other people's children and most of us do it with a smile on our face and love in our heart. As cheesy as it sounds it's the truth.
Most people just choose to blame us because they don't like to take responsibility for the fact that they have the "guilty" parent syndromes. Stop blaming the nanny, stop buying things for your kid (they have enough stuff I promise), and just be there with your child. We understand you have to work during the week but that doesn't make up for the fact that you ignore your kid on the weekend while you have your "down time".
Like I said in the beginning it's not fair that we take all the blame.
-nanny from Mass