Received Tuesday, May 5, 2009
Here's my problem - I work full time for an amazing 2 year old girl. She is an angel. I couldn't ask for a better situation. I get along very well with both parents, and the little girl "Emma" is perfect. I mean it! Perfect. Yes, she has her moments, but we have so much fun together. Here's where it gets tricky. When mom is around, Emma turns into the child from...well, you know. Awful. Not just whiny and crying, terrible. Screaming, kicking, hitting, spitting, the whole works. She has no patience when mom is there, and needs immediate gratification. With me, I can say to her, "I'll help you in a minute" and she accepts it every time. The thing is, mom spends a good amount of time with Emma. She is a great mom. And I know Emma loves me (not to pat myself on the back, but she runs to me when I get there in the morning, initiates cuddles, etc.). When mom is around, neither one of us has a BIT of control. It started out as something that was merely annoying, but now it is unbearable. As soon as mom leaves the room, Emma returns to her charming little self, it is crazy! She clearly wants mom attention, but I honestly feel mom gives her a lot of attention. Emma is miserable, and so are mom and me. I've been with the family for a year now, and really want to make this situation work because I'd hate for this to make me want to look for another family. Has anyone (nanny or mom) gone through something similar? We really need your help!