Received Thursday, February 5, 2009
I need opinions please.
I interviewed with a very nice single mom 2 weeks ago. The hours suit my needs and the pay is good. She has 2 adorable children. She told me she is a waitress in an upscale establishment. She was very selective about the interview process, called my references and did a background check on me. Monday she called to tell me I was hired and could I start Friday evening. I said yes. I stopped by her home this morning to go over things and become familiar with her house. (She owns her own home in a nice neighborhood). She was on her way out and as I left and I decided to take a walk around the neighborhood I would be working in. I will mostly be working late nights she may occasionally have me there weekend days.
As I was returning to my car, a woman came out of the house near hers. She asked if I was going to be the new babysitter. I said yes. Then she asked if I knew the woman Iwas a stripper. I was shocked! The neighbor gave me the name where she works and I just had my husband call and ask if X would be on this Friday night he was told YES! The club is an upscale club but my DH says no way he wants me working for a stripper. He worries about what sort of people she might bring home and what I could innocently get involved in.
Now I don't know what to do. On one hand I can see my husband's point and on the other I see nothing wrong with how she makes a living. It's not easy out there and I know strippers often make a full time salary working part-time hours. An excellent situation for a single mom who gets to earn a living wage and be there for her kids. I addition, we had a good friend who paid her own way through college stripping and he saw nothing wrong with that back then.
My big issue is she lied to me. I can understand why she lied but I still feel uncomfortable about that, particularly after she checked me out so thoroughly.
I promised to sit for her this Friday evening but I'm not sure if I should get involved. I'm also not sure what to tell her if I decide not to work for her. After the interview process and subsequent conversations, I would feel silly saying something "came up" My DH says just lie to her like she did to me but that's not my style. I can't think of a way to tell her I know the truth either.