Received Thursday, March 26, 2009
I have a strange problem. I am a live out nanny and I work 18-26 hours per week. I work for a stay-at-home mother. Most often, she leaves when I arrive, she can be somewhat abrupt and always acts like she is running late, although as I stated, she is a sahm and does not work. She has a son who is 5 and is in part day kindergarten. He is very sweet, but can be a handful if you are not consistent and firm with him. He knows what I expect from him and as a result, I have very few problems with him. About two months ago, he went to the doctor because he was having problems with his sinuses and his doctor told me one thing I could do was to have his mother buy a netti pot to clean out his nose. The Dr. told me that it was worth a try, but he might not take to it. So I bought the pot and told his mother about it and what the Dr. said. She waved her hand in the air to suggest she wouldn't be bothered with such a thing and I let it go. Two days later, the child's nose was all plugged up and I suggested we try it. I took him in the bathroom and followed the instructions and he went ballistic. He was squirming and crying bloody murder. I figured, okay, he didn't take to it. I told the mother when I left that I tried the netti pot and his reaction and I made a remark, "I wish there was something else we could do". Yesterday, I see that the netti pot is out on his bathroom sink. I asked him about it and he told me that Mommy did it. Mommy did it because I was bad. After further questioning, I find out that this is the second time Mommy has used the netti pot as a punishment. The last time was because he took too long getting his pajamas on and was asking for too much help. I am furious.
Do I have a leg to stand on to say anything? In retrospect, I think I saw a glimmer in her eye when I told her how he reacted to the netti pot treatment. This is her only child and I pick him up from school most days. It doesn't appear to me that she has much affection for him.