Received Thursday, January 29, 2009
I have been working (as an aupair/nanny) for 18 months with a very difficult family. When I signed I signed the contract in July to stay another year, things weren't fantastic, but I loved the little girl, and figured I could handle another year. However, after a few incidents this past week, I just do not think I can last until July, when my contract ends. I am miserable, unappreciated, and underpaid. So, having said that, I have decided that it is best if I leave and find a new job. So, I am wondering, how much notice is appropriate?
Some of the incidents are- for instance I caught them in my room "looking" for their daughters ice skating pass. I let it go then, but the more that I thought about it, the more it bothered me. I wrote them a very nice note explaining that I didn't feel comfortable with them in my room, etc., and could they please call me if they needed to know where something was! Well, the next thing I know, they brought out my contract, after highlighting everything they thought I was doing wrong, and basically threw it at me!
These things I was doing wrong were things like: taking food from the kitchen without asking permission (I am a live-in nanny, and 24! And we are talking like, a can of tuna or spaghetti sauce. Nothing expensive!), feeding their child ice cream (as a treat after dinner), and things like that. The point is though, is that I am not in violation of my contract. They, I think, were just angry that I challenged them about "their house" (as they put it, and clearly stated that they had a right to enter my room whether I was home or not). But it is to the point where my working environment is very tense, and I would just like to leave. I am just unsure how much notice to give as there is not a specific amount of time listed in my contract!
Employers, if your nanny were going to leave, how much notice would you hope for? How much notice would be essential? And how many of you upon finding out your nanny was no longer happy working for you- would simply want her gone?